Libragirl1210 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 I broke things off with my aquarius bf 2 1/2 weeks ago because i needed a break from the whole relationship thing to see if its still what I wanted after he broke my trust by going on tinder he made amends told me how sorry he was and said that he wanted to be with me after initially breaking things off when i mentioned it, his backflip happened all within a matter of hours. Anyway long story short it ate away at me and thats why I broke it off on feb 12. He wasn't happy but said if thats what i want. In the last 2 weeks we have spoken on the phone 3 times once he called me and twice i called him also a few texts here and there initiated by both of us but nothing like the calls and texts we had when we were together. I began regretting my decision over the weekend and wanted to give it another shot i caved on saturday night and sent a text saying this is hard i miss you took him an hour to reply with hey how was your day? I was disappointed but decided that was it I wasn't contacting him again. So yesterday was day 3 and i noticed that his neice deleted me off Facebook when i went to reply to a comment she'd left on a post i'd made, then later on he deleted my 2 brothers off facebook and then the panic set in and i text him and asked him to call me, he was at work but can use his phone so after 5 minutes i called him he answered and acted normal asking whats been happening etc i said about his niece deleteing me and had he said something to her and he said no but he'll find out why. Then he said that he doesn't want to go on the holiday we had booked and paid the deposit for afew weeks ago anymore ( that was all up in the air until now) anyway i told him i want to give it another shot his reply was that he just wants to be on his own for a while and doesn't want to be in a relationship i asked afew more times before finally saying ok and getting off the phone. After afew hours i sent him a text saying thanks for all the good times and that this is hard but i will respect your wishes take care and good luck. He also has alot of stuff at my house that he needs to pick up so i said i would leave it out in front of my garage for him to pickup when his ready. I then deleted him off facebook figured i might as well do it all in one go. Have i done the right thing? It all hurts so much I won't be contacting him again. We were together for 18 months
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 You have learned a hard but valuable lesson. Breaks aren't a thing & time off makes problems worse not better. You fix problems in a relationship by working together. When you separate you give the other person the chance to realize they don't need you &/or you prove to them that you don't care enough about them to fight for the relationship. Him going on Tinder was a problem. I am not second guessing or undermining your angst. However, your decision to spend time apart was the mistake. Talking probably still would have led to the demise of your relationship because his actions called his commitment into Q. Just think about what happened & how you will resolve conflict in your next relationship.
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