Left me and i don't know why..

[Red7]

Hey, This is as much about getting this off my chest as it is seeking advice.

This may get long, thanks for listenting to my story if you can make it through.

 

Recently my girlfriend of 5 years left me. I don't know why, i'm heartbroken and confused. I can't stop trying to figure it out which is driving me crazy.

 

I'm going to try and break down the break up the best i can.

 

She said she wanted space (we lived together), and though i didn't want to go down that route. I gave her space and stayed on my mums sofa.

 

After a few days i rang her. Honestly i can't remember the exact conversation. She she didn't think it was working anymore. I was upset because i missed her, it sounded like she was done with me. She said it wasn't that, that she loved me.

 

I went back to our flat maybe a day or two after that to talk.

Where she broke up with me. She said she needs to sort her life out. She was crying a lot. She was as upset as i was. I left eventually after collecting my things, feeling gutted that i might not ever see her again, but also confused by how upset she was.

 

After a few days i asked if i could talk to her, i needed to talk to her about the last of my things. I was a messed and missed quite a few things. Anyway we met and she said she's get the things together and have them dropped to me.. ok i thought.

We spoke for a bit over a coffee, i told my side of things. I know i had become a bit lazy with our relationship. That i was sorry but it was something that could be fixed. She just said it was to little to later.

Before leaving i asked her if there would ever be an us in the future, she said maybe in a few years. (so no).

 

After that days went by when i text her about my getting my things, no reply.

Another 2 days go by i text her again. no reply.

Another 3 days, no reply.

 

At this point i just got angry about it. And i went over to my old flat. She wasn't there, but her mum was. Who thankfully let me in. I was able to get the last of my stuff. It didn't look like she was planning on giving me stuff back anytime soon.

Like i told her my weights were under the bed. I found them in a bag, in a box, in a cuboard. Or my speakers still hooked up to the TV..

All my video games were missing.. She works in a GAME store so i assumed she sold them..

Her mum said she was told not to get involved, not to let me in the flat. But other then that doesn't know anything. Infact she felt bad for how i was being treated and was worried by how my ex will react to me having been round.

 

After leaving i sent my ex a text. Telling her not to be mad at her mum. It was her fault, she shouldn't have ignored me for so long. I said some not over the top nasty things.

But i said plenty of sincere things to.

The reply i got was picture of someone ginving the finger..

 

I've text her maybe 3 times over the past month since that.

One pretty much telling her what i'm telling all you, i'm confised by all this and i don't understand.. So can we talk?.

Just get ignored.

 

Last thing i asked was "why do you ignore everything i say, can you at least tell me that?" Ignored.

 

This break up has left me broken, ill and homeless. Believe it or not the flat was originally rented to me before we hooked up.

It's left a massive void that's preventing me from any sort of happiness or motivation. I was offered a god damn promotion at work at the peak of all this. Perfect timing? I turned it down and i feel like an idiot for it. But i'm just not myself

 

 

That's the story. Sorry it's so long.

I'm totally torn apart by losing her. She was someone i could have spent the rest of my life with. We were best friends, during and before we were partners.

For the most part our relationship was great, we had a great connection. Running all the way up to a few days before her asking me to leave for space out of the blue.

 

At this point i'm telling myself she's met someone else, simply because it makes more sense then the bad reason i did get given.

But we spent 90% of our time together so who that could be makes as little sense.

 

I just don't get how she can be so torn up in the break up, then be so cruel to me after..

I mean, i already have the worse end of the stick. I'm technically homeless now. And lost everything i had tied up into that flat. We would split the bill on lots of things.

 

Needless to say, i don't feel like i could ever trust again. If this how you can be treated after 5 years together. I just can't imagine the pain after even longer then that.

Edited February 28, 2017 by Red7

[d0nnivain]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you & in such a cruel way.

 

 

Your EX did give you a reason for the break up; it's just not a reason that satisfies you. She had probably been thinking about this for a while. She's relying on clichés like it's her & wanting to get her life together. Translation: she wants more than she has now & has concluded that you are holding her back. There may be another man, or at least she may want there to be.

 

 

You can only control you. You are never going to get a satisfactory answer from her. All you can do is work on yourself.

 

 

Take the time to mourn the loss of the relationship. Surround yourself with supportive friends & family. Keep busy. Hang in there.

[preraph]

She gave you the reasons she left, that she wasn't happy with you and felt you weren't trying. To a woman, this doesn't mean it can be fixed by you now doing something to show you're trying. This means you didn't care enough about her to listen to her until she took drastic measures, so she knows you don't WANT to fix whatever it is really, in your head.

 

She is definitely over it and you need to just move on because she is. I doubt it's another man, but there will be one once she gets her bearings again. She just decided you weren't who she wanted to spend her life with, that she thinks she can do better. Maybe, maybe not, but that's her choice.

 

Please just get busy doing other things and don't let yourself dwell on it or hope for a reunion. She sounds truly fed up.

[Maldives]

Hey, This is as much about getting this off my chest as it is seeking advice.

This may get long, thanks for listenting to my story if you can make it through.

 

Recently my girlfriend of 5 years left me. I don't know why, i'm heartbroken and confused. I can't stop trying to figure it out which is driving me crazy.

 

I'm going to try and break down the break up the best i can.

 

She said she wanted space (we lived together), and though i didn't want to go down that route. I gave her space and stayed on my mums sofa.

 

After a few days i rang her. Honestly i can't remember the exact conversation. She she didn't think it was working anymore. I was upset because i missed her, it sounded like she was done with me. She said it wasn't that, that she loved me.

 

I went back to our flat maybe a day or two after that to talk.

Where she broke up with me. She said she needs to sort her life out. She was crying a lot. She was as upset as i was. I left eventually after collecting my things, feeling gutted that i might not ever see her again, but also confused by how upset she was.

 

After a few days i asked if i could talk to her, i needed to talk to her about the last of my things. I was a messed and missed quite a few things. Anyway we met and she said she's get the things together and have them dropped to me.. ok i thought.

We spoke for a bit over a coffee, i told my side of things. I know i had become a bit lazy with our relationship. That i was sorry but it was something that could be fixed. She just said it was to little to later.

Before leaving i asked her if there would ever be an us in the future, she said maybe in a few years. (so no).

 

After that days went by when i text her about my getting my things, no reply.

Another 2 days go by i text her again. no reply.

Another 3 days, no reply.

 

At this point i just got angry about it. And i went over to my old flat. She wasn't there, but her mum was. Who thankfully let me in. I was able to get the last of my stuff. It didn't look like she was planning on giving me stuff back anytime soon.

Like i told her my weights were under the bed. I found them in a bag, in a box, in a cuboard. Or my speakers still hooked up to the TV..

All my video games were missing.. She works in a GAME store so i assumed she sold them..

Her mum said she was told not to get involved, not to let me in the flat. But other then that doesn't know anything. Infact she felt bad for how i was being treated and was worried by how my ex will react to me having been round.

 

After leaving i sent my ex a text. Telling her not to be mad at her mum. It was her fault, she shouldn't have ignored me for so long. I said some not over the top nasty things.

But i said plenty of sincere things to.

The reply i got was picture of someone ginving the finger..

 

I've text her maybe 3 times over the past month since that.

One pretty much telling her what i'm telling all you, i'm confised by all this and i don't understand.. So can we talk?.

Just get ignored.

 

Last thing i asked was "why do you ignore everything i say, can you at least tell me that?" Ignored.

 

This break up has left me broken, ill and homeless. Believe it or not the flat was originally rented to me before we hooked up.

It's left a massive void that's preventing me from any sort of happiness or motivation. I was offered a god damn promotion at work at the peak of all this. Perfect timing? I turned it down and i feel like an idiot for it. But i'm just not myself

 

 

That's the story. Sorry it's so long.

I'm totally torn apart by losing her. She was someone i could have spent the rest of my life with. We were best friends, during and before we were partners.

For the most part our relationship was great, we had a great connection. Running all the way up to a few days before her asking me to leave for space out of the blue.

 

At this point i'm telling myself she's met someone else, simply because it makes more sense then the bad reason i did get given.

But we spent 90% of our time together so who that could be makes as little sense.

 

I just don't get how she can be so torn up in the break up, then be so cruel to me after..

I mean, i already have the worse end of the stick. I'm technically homeless now. And lost everything i had tied up into that flat. We would split the bill on lots of things.

 

Needless to say, i don't feel like i could ever trust again. If this how you can be treated after 5 years together. I just can't imagine the pain after even longer then that.

 

 

As they say woman lose the feelings like mine or attraction it's either one o those too if u really want her back subscribe to ex girlfriend recovery. com Chris sieter I'd the best there is i dont know ur history only u two do but please before anything else read up on this if u want her back definatly the NC applies to giv u time to figure out wether u want her back wether ur relationship was healthy for either of u re assess she needs space to miss u as well. No garauntees tho he can definatly giv u the tools to rebuild the attraction. Mine we split a few mths back i saw my faults in it and the challenges being wth her presented it was hard and to be honest after all the trouble she's put me thru even tho I crave for her sometimes I don't thinknow now if go back simply because the drama she's causestate me and headaches good luck and God bless