kunaka1000 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Hie im a person that is very quiet an introvert,im mostly by myself, and in that dont have friends,i have tried but i just had to accept i cant make friends or just socially awkward. my worry is my girlfriend is the only person i talk the most too and i dont want to be too depend because emotionally im already too attached,when we dont talk its like im anxious in a way everytime im really afraid when i loose her i will fall apart. i really want to find how to be less dependant on her even tho i love her so much.
coolheadal Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Find other things you like to do and do them. Play musical instruments I do that and belong to some social media groups and also play in concert pavilion nightly. Got to find out what you really like to do play online games what ever you have to do so you don't feel like wanting to reach out to your girl friend so much. I do this also.. Or have other women friends too at your beck and call. Got to do whatever it takes so you don't feel like you do daily. Take a walk outside in the park. Buy or adopt a pet (cat or dog) or get a talking parrot. There is also robot pet now costly but they only need to be charged and they'r off interacting with you. So much you can do start painting, write something story, book etc. Get a hobby..
rushed Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Hie im a person that is very quiet an introvert,im mostly by myself, and in that dont have friends,i have tried but i just had to accept i cant make friends or just socially awkward. my worry is my girlfriend is the only person i talk the most too and i dont want to be too depend because emotionally im already too attached,when we dont talk its like im anxious in a way everytime im really afraid when i loose her i will fall apart. i really want to find how to be less dependant on her even tho i love her so much. Do you go to school or work? That's the easiest way to make friends. Just try making light conversation with those around you to start. Easy conversation starters are tv shows or movies. (E.g. Did you watch the Oscars last night? Have you seen the movie blah blah?) See what you have in common with them and if there's anything you can do together outside of work. A coworker walked by my desk and commented that I had been quiet all night. I told him I was looking up fitness classes. He told me he was thinking about joining the crossfit gym near our work. Lo and behold, guess what two people are trying crossfit together? Another coworker and I were discussing bars. He mentioned one that was owned by his friend's girlfriend. This bar just happened to be down the street from my place. We're now drinking buddies. Just be friendly and make conversation with those around you. It's good that you already realize that you shouldn't be too dependent on your girlfriend. I would probably feel suffocated if I were my boyfriend's only friend. Having other friends helps round you out and gives you more things to talk about when you're with your significant other.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted March 1, 2017 Posted March 1, 2017 Hie im a person that is very quiet an introvert,im mostly by myself, and in that dont have friends,i have tried but i just had to accept i cant make friends or just socially awkward. my worry is my girlfriend is the only person i talk the most too and i dont want to be too depend because emotionally im already too attached,when we dont talk its like im anxious in a way everytime im really afraid when i loose her i will fall apart. i really want to find how to be less dependant on her even tho i love her so much. You need to 'practice!' YOU NEED to gain more experience and with that comes growing confidence. As per you being too dependent on your gf, well, if you want to keep her then you better start working on being more independent. One sure way to lose someone is by being 'smothering' as another poster suggested. Do you go out with your gf and hang out with her friends? That's another obvious way to gain that confidence. In the end, you need to get over the FEAR or failure. That, in itself, will keep you from even trying. We all learn how to become socially adapted, but it comes with practice, growing confidence and a willingness to fail or not being afraid to fail.
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