Cjaxrun85 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 So I decided to try online dating again. I obtained a woman's number after an evening of conversation via the website. Before she headed to bed we exchanged numbers and she told me to text her the next day. So I noticed she was online on the site mid afternoon today so I texted her and said "Hi this is so and so from POF." She responded about 30 minutes later and said "Hey there." "I'm teaching right now I'll hit you back later." So no big deal. I logged onto the site about 3 hours later to check a couple messages I received and noticed she was online but still no text. Any thoughts?
act00 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 It could just be that she always appears online because her browser is open or she never logs out. Just because it shows she's online doesn't mean she's busy at POF or FB or other online activities. I've had this accusation, and I'm really not sure what makes the appearance of online constantly, but I know I may not actively be on the computer or on the phone, but it shows I'm online. She may also not want to appear too eager. Woman can't be too forceful, too eager, or seem too interested. It's kind of a silly gender thing, but maybe she's playing hard to get. I wouldn't put too much stock in it for the time being. You just met. Ask her out, meet in person, and go from there. I can promise you, if she likes you, she likes you checking in. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 So I decided to try online dating again. I obtained a woman's number after an evening of conversation via the website. Before she headed to bed we exchanged numbers and she told me to text her the next day. So I noticed she was online on the site mid afternoon today so I texted her and said "Hi this is so and so from POF." She responded about 30 minutes later and said "Hey there." "I'm teaching right now I'll hit you back later." So no big deal. I logged onto the site about 3 hours later to check a couple messages I received and noticed she was online but still no text. Any thoughts? 1. She is constantly online b/c she doesn't properly log out of ALL of her browsers 2. She's online b/c she IS actively looking, or {I suspect it's not this while she is at work as she is being monitored if using school computers} 3. She has an app that is constantly on the 'active' mode unless you deliberately deactivate the app I used to use the app, but b/c I would forget at times or receive alerts sometimes at the most inconvenient times (imagine a color dating icon popping up on your smartphone while someone is standing/sitting next to you:o), I deleted it.
Author Cjaxrun85 Posted February 28, 2017 Author Posted February 28, 2017 It wasn't a big deal that she was online...I go online and answer other woman's messages. I honestly don't really like online dating but I mostly go hiking and work out at the gym on my days off so not too many woman come across my way.
ShyLove Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 I read somewhere that when you log on to a dating site you are automatically logged in for 3 hours so it appears that they have more users online. This makes sense bc when I check messages before bed I often get messages at 1 or 2 am asking why I'm still up, even though I closed the app around 10:30.
Miss Spider Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Her interest level isn't that high and she's still browsing...not unusual considering you haven't met in person yet.
Author Cjaxrun85 Posted February 28, 2017 Author Posted February 28, 2017 I agree and I browse too. Just seemed weird
GoldSparkz Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 This is how these online dating sites make their money - they feed off people's insecurities by allowing their members to track everything ie when the message is read, when the person is online, when they visit your profile etc. You end up making too many assumptions until the enjoyment is taken out of dating. If she went to the effort of giving you her number, then it is clear that she was interested in you on that day. If she hasn't followed through with messaging you after work then she is most likely chatting to someone else. OLD is tough but you need a thick skin if you want to be successful with it.
Author Cjaxrun85 Posted February 28, 2017 Author Posted February 28, 2017 I'm about over the online dating anyways. Too many flakes and a lot of people who say they want to date or want to find someone to potentially have a relationship but in reality they have to many issues to really be able to actually make that happen. Too many attention seekers.
coolheadal Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Your on the wrong online dating site POF, that one I don't care for at all. Dating on Online Dating Sites (good) (still have to break the ice) Dating on Social Media Groups (better) (ice already broken) Dating from Friends Parties (best) (still have to break the ice) For me I do both and now the last one. I run food groups and the woman like my recipes what I create daily. So I guess food counts finding love. LOL but these women on the food groups I run know me already by food I talk about. So the ice is broken they're so excited to talk and meet me already. Then Dating Online I've met a lot of women and dated a lot. But still I do not date all of them I only choose the ones I deem I can get along with. I just use the same online dating site but I've done so much research to learn what works and what doesn't. You really have to put down what your really want out online dating. Those I meet in person from parties feel comfortable talking and seeing me. But like with online dating these women are not different than the online ones. The best ones are from the social media groups. I've tried women with kids and women without kids. As your doing or did. I ran into the same issue. Women with kids you have to take sometimes a back seat, as those kids come first and those women are so worn out at the end of day and by the weekend. Young kids and teenagers on single parent is worst than those who are in the mid 20s to 30s and still with the Mother. Some have their brother and mom still living. I have one woman that's like that. She's grand-mother too. She still makes room for me though. I will never live with her in her so call Brady Bunch House. Women online with Kids (one to 4 kids) (can be complicated) Women online without Kids (really hard to find) (easier to deal with) Women online never married no kids (depends on prior dating habits) If you really want things to work you have to work at it daily not easy to find the love one of your life and you have to work at it. Mental issue ones are the hardest I've encountered. But if you can deal with some issues but not other you have to know what your willing to tolerate and not.
morrowrd Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 couple of things to remember with POF. If people have the app, it appears that they're online whenever their phone is on. Then there's the part about lifers...there are people who are on that site 24/7 as if it's an online community. Dateaholics are also on there. I know when I used it, I got off it for 3 years, and when I went back, some of the same people were still on there, with unchanged profiles. Dating sites are a valuable resource in this day and age. I really recommend them to people looking for others to date. In the old days, you could pick up women just about anywhere. Grocery store, the beach, the mall..... now it's creepy trying to do that. With dating sites, you are dealing with people there for the same reasons as you (most of the time.) It's a filtering process and a game of patience.
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 Your on the wrong online dating site POF, that one I don't care for at all. Dating on Online Dating Sites (good) (still have to break the ice) Dating on Social Media Groups (better) (ice already broken) Dating from Friends Parties (best) (still have to break the ice) For me I do both and now the last one. I run food groups and the woman like my recipes what I create daily. So I guess food counts finding love. LOL but these women on the food groups I run know me already by food I talk about. So the ice is broken they're so excited to talk and meet me already. Then Dating Online I've met a lot of women and dated a lot. But still I do not date all of them I only choose the ones I deem I can get along with. I just use the same online dating site but I've done so much research to learn what works and what doesn't. You really have to put down what your really want out online dating. Those I meet in person from parties feel comfortable talking and seeing me. But like with online dating these women are not different than the online ones. The best ones are from the social media groups. I've tried women with kids and women without kids. As your doing or did. I ran into the same issue. Women with kids you have to take sometimes a back seat, as those kids come first and those women are so worn out at the end of day and by the weekend. Young kids and teenagers on single parent is worst than those who are in the mid 20s to 30s and still with the Mother. Some have their brother and mom still living. I have one woman that's like that. She's grand-mother too. She still makes room for me though. I will never live with her in her so call Brady Bunch House. Women online with Kids (one to 4 kids) (can be complicated) Women online without Kids (really hard to find) (easier to deal with) Women online never married no kids (depends on prior dating habits) If you really want things to work you have to work at it daily not easy to find the love one of your life and you have to work at it. Mental issue ones are the hardest I've encountered. But if you can deal with some issues but not other you have to know what your willing to tolerate and not. Social media groups are iffy, because women are kind of weird about who contacts them on Facebook, if they've never met them in person. I had a female friend found out that I met the last person via seeing them as mutual friends on FB. She asked that I never "troll" her group of FB friends and I was like, "Wow, remind me not to make you MY wingman/woman, lol" She said she hates it when her male friends troll her friends list, contacting women. I was like, "If he looked like Chris Hemsworth, you'd probably say, 'troll away!' lol"
coolheadal Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 (edited) Social media groups are iffy, because women are kind of weird about who contacts them on Facebook, if they've never met them in person. I had a female friend found out that I met the last person via seeing them as mutual friends on FB. She asked that I never "troll" her group of FB friends and I was like, "Wow, remind me not to make you MY wingman/woman, lol" She said she hates it when her male friends troll her friends list, contacting women. I was like, "If he looked like Chris Hemsworth, you'd probably say, 'troll away!' lol" FB is okay I have huge group with only women in there for my healthy foods I make from scratch. When I do run into those who I deem worthy to contact , or they just chase me down and say hi. Before I know it I am talking them on my cell phone. Some I do meet in person some drive over 6 hrs to meet me. I usually put them up and cook the meal of their dreams. But it's okay to meet them off FB group I run on there for several years. I never thought about meeting any of those women prior. That started in 2015 seeing them. But your right you have to know who your dealing with. See your in a mix group where mine is all women with only 2% men and 98% women. I run my group on my own. Anyway online dating is fun but you have to make sure what you are seeking. I am not looking for married women who are still married or those that think they're still single just because their husbands live in another state with another woman. I ran into a couple of them on the online dating sites. I have one who wants to come to stay with me and she's bringing her husband and he suppose to stay 1 month then she wants to stay for 3 to 6 months. What a joke! That will never happen. The idea of some people.. Fake women on dating sites also those are more after money. Again weed out the fakes and those your don't want to be with block them. Just keep on your quest for the right woman, because you'll never know who you might run into? Edited February 28, 2017 by coolheadal
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 (edited) FB is okay I have huge group with only women in there for my healthy foods I make from scratch. When I do run into those who I deem worthy to contact , or they just chase me down and say hi. Before I know it I am talking them on my cell phone. Some I do meet in person some drive over 6 hrs to meet me. I usually put them up and cook the meal of their dreams. But it's okay to meet them off FB group I run on there for several years. I never thought about meeting any of those women prior. That started in 2015 seeing them. But your right you have to know who your dealing with. See your in a mix group where mine is all women with only 2% men and 98% women. I run my group on my own. Anyway online dating is fun but you have to make sure what you are seeking. I am not looking for married women who are still married or those that think they're still single just because their husbands live in another state with another woman. I ran into a couple of them on the online dating sites. I have one who wants to come to stay with me and she's bringing her husband and he suppose to stay 1 month then she wants to stay for 3 to 6 months. What a joke! That will never happen. The idea of some people.. Fake women on dating sites also those are more after money. Again weed out the fakes and those your don't want to be with block them. Just keep on your quest for the right woman, because you'll never know who you might run into? Good point, in my FB groups most women, unfortunately are married or spoken for. *Shrug* I recall adding one as a friend as I met her at an event, professional belly dancer and fire eater....and she was like, "Just giving a heads up, I'm married...I usually say this tall the men who add me." It kind of fooled me because she has all the pics of herself, but none of her husband...kinda weird, AND for "relationship status" she has "No relationship info to show"...which is suspicious. Why not just say "Married"? Esp. if she wants to make that clear? She has a whole list of "Family Members" listed FB profiles, but not her husbands? Seen this with several profiles. I have a female friend that used to include a connection to her husband, but now...it's no longer there...but he's still saying he's married to her in his profile. It's interesting how Facebook can say a lot without saying much. lol Edited February 28, 2017 by LookAtThisPOst
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