Tressugar Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I'm curious to know your opinion on being called 'sweetness' by someone you're dating. Is that a bad thing or a good thing? I've been called 'sexy' and 'beautiful' by the same person, but after a night of baring my soul (literally) I'm second guessing myself.
CptInsano Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I would take it as a simple term of endearment. After a "night of baring your soul" it makes sense to to me, as the rather emotionally intimate moments are not necessarily sexy. 6
Author Tressugar Posted February 26, 2017 Author Posted February 26, 2017 Okay. Thank you for your response. =) 1
Dis Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 The guy I'm dating right now calls me 'sweetie' I prefer that over 'sexy' He tells me how attracted he is to me and makes that clear through his actions so as long as your guy does that then dont worry about what he calls you Dont over think things girly! I have to tell myself that all the time lol 2
elaine567 Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I am not too fond of such terms. Many men use them as they do not want to get mixed up with names, so they call every girl sweetie or babe, or sweetness, or darling or sugar, or some other term of endearment. It can lull some women into a false sense of security. "He must really like me/love me, before he calls me that." When the opposite is often true. He just can't remember your name... 1
todreaminblue Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 (edited) i used to use it in writing to my ex......goofier though like how are you sweetness in my curry..........or sweetness in my cup of coffee..... it is a term of endearment.....i used to say it because i knew he would smile... me being goofy....but underneath the humor making him feel close to me.... my ex is the only guy ever when we first went out to say to me what name can i give you......what name would you like me to call you........i guess because he knew me.....there are names i dont like....he had heard me put a few guys off.....by telling them dont call me that.... im not your honey.....you dont know me....because if they did .....they would know i dont have good associations with the word honey....makes me feel creeped out...... if a name makes you uncomfortable and you don't feel it....tell him....be honest...... after a night of baring your soul.....if i were you i would look at sweetness as being warm and close.....he feels that ....i am gathering you baring your soul wasnt sexual....and it follows on that he would acknowledge the person he feels you are and a connection to that side of you...and to me thats warm.....closeness.....sweetness.....almost like being called angel ..(which btw is the word i love to be called...just feels right.....i want to be their angel)..........maybe thats what he sees...its what i see..words are important ....and one word...can say or mean many things......i associate a warmth and an inimate emotional closeness with that word which is why i often tend to soften that word with goofy humor....i now call my girls that word to make them feel close to me...........best wishes...deb Edited February 26, 2017 by todreaminblue
grays Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I am not too fond of such terms. Many men use them as they do not want to get mixed up with names, so they call every girl sweetie or babe, or sweetness, or darling or sugar, or some other term of endearment. It can lull some women into a false sense of security. "He must really like me/love me, before he calls me that." When the opposite is often true. He just can't remember your name... I dont agree with this at all. Its possible that some people are that way (men and women) but to assume that any time someone refers to you with a term of endearment it must be bc they barely differentiate you from all their other women seems like a very negative position. In my experience, it has been the men who have more genuine feelings for me that call me sweet things. 3
Miss Spider Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I don't think it means anything, except that this person uses ipet names. I've had guys call me that on Tinder in the first message. Why don't you just ask this guy if he wants to step up the rship,sugar,(pun not intended)it's been like five months 3
Dis Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I don't think it means anything, except that this person uses ipet names. I've had guys call me that on Tinder in the first message. Why don't you just ask this guy if he wants to step up the rship,sugar,(pun not intended)it's been like five months Ditto 100% 1
Shanex Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 (edited) I also dislike these terms. Unless we're well into the relationship. I'm not calling some lady online or on the street ''sweetheart'' or ''sexy'' out of the blue. I love being called ''brighteyes'' or ''vern'' though. Edited February 26, 2017 by Shanex 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 I also dislike these terms. Unless we're well into the relationship. I'm not calling some lady online or on the street ''sweetheart'' or ''sexy'' out of the blue. I love being called ''brighteyes'' or ''vern'' though. I don't think calling an actual stranger "sexy" on the street is the same as a couple using pet names for one another. I'd be GOBSMACKED if some guy yelled "sexy" at me on the street. OTOH I am nowhere near gobsmacked when my husband calls me "honey," which he always does. He basically never uses my first name. I have no fear that it's because he can't remember what it is. The man doesn't have Alzheimer's disease. As for pet names with near-strangers (NOT "sexy,"), I tend to see this with much older people. This could be regional; I'm not sure. I would expect an over-60 man to say "honey" or "dear" to me but anyone younger than that, as a stranger, would be...odd. It's the same with women. As a getting-older woman myself (I'll be 50 this year) I have very occasionally called my son's male friends "honey," for example, exactly the same way I would say it to my sons.
Jj66 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 I got called "sweetness" by a FWB a couple of times. That was enough for me to start heading for the exit. It would have been ok for a prospective gf to say it, or my mother, but not a FWB. In my mind it implies a loving connection that would be a disaster for a FWB.
stillafool Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 I am not too fond of such terms. Many men use them as they do not want to get mixed up with names, so they call every girl sweetie or babe, or sweetness, or darling or sugar, or some other term of endearment. It can lull some women into a false sense of security. "He must really like me/love me, before he calls me that." When the opposite is often true. He just can't remember your name... My older brother used to do this all the time so he didn't mess up. He started calling my Mom and me the same but my Mom put an end to it.
Lilyana76 Posted February 28, 2017 Posted February 28, 2017 I call everyone, sweetie, honey, sugar, babe. Maybe its a regional thing, is he from somewhere that terms of endearment are normal to almost everybody? I guess if I'm seeing someone.. being called sweetness, sugar, babygirl (swoon), is something I adore, but not when I'm just dating, its more of a serious relationship thing.
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