ohso Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I'm dating a guy and we were at the market buying groceries to make diner at his place. We just missed the bus and had to wait for another for 10 minutes. I was tired and my hands were full. I sat on the bench as it was sunny and wanted to spend time with him there. He told me he doesn't want to wait and wanted to leave me alone to wait for the bus as he goes on his own walking. I got mad and walked with him for half an hour. I think as it was a date his decision was stupid selfish and disrespectful to me. We were in no rush. He thinks it was ok because it's not like he left me in a foreign country so I could get lost. Your thoughts?
coolheadal Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 Move on and forget this guy.. You can do better than him. Never tolerate disrespectful behavior from any man period. 9
GoldSparkz Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I would definitely dump him, only because I've been in the exact same position and later found out the guy I was with was massively insecure and never put me first until I told him to. An example was when I travelled with him to Hawaii (from the UK) to run a marathon. It was my first ever marathon, he had run a few before. Cut a long story short, I finished after 5 hours of running and he was nowhere to be seen when I got to the finish line. Basically, he finished a couple hours earlier and instead of waiting for me, he decided to go back to the hotel and upload pictures on Instagram. I had no idea he was there until I decided to go back to the hotel. I was in a foreign country like you and he didn't even look after me, check I was OK. I could have ended up with an injury and he wasn't there to support me. Makes me angry just thinking about it...the punk!! Sorry for the rant! My advice is you deserve a man who is patient and will support you however intense the situation is. If he has a bad attitude now, goodness knows what he'll be like in a year's time.
KBarletta Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I think as it was a date his decision was stupid selfish and disrespectful to me. We were in no rush. I totally agree. You were on a date. He was there to spend time with you and chose to go off on his own. That's ridiculous, actually. Unless you had a fight or something, he should have stuck by your side.
Author ohso Posted February 26, 2017 Author Posted February 26, 2017 Unless you had a fight or something, he should have stuck by your side. No fight. Everything was great. This is our first fight actually.
Erik30 Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 That's weird, something must have happened. Maybe something you thought that wasn't that big of a deal? (Still no excuse for his behaviour though) He actually wanted to walk alone, he didn't want you to tag along, so that's makes it even worse. No one just leaves their date... I totally understand your doubts about him
Author ohso Posted February 26, 2017 Author Posted February 26, 2017 That's weird, something must have happened. Maybe something you thought that wasn't that big of a deal? No. Really. I asked him. He did it just because he felt that way.
Author ohso Posted February 26, 2017 Author Posted February 26, 2017 Who was carrying the groceries? Both of us. We bought quite a lot. He even thought he'd leave me his part of groceries, as he will walk, and I'll wait for the bus.
dumbass2 Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 There has to be more to this story. I can't see anyone doing this based on what little we've been told. If that is it, then no doubt you drop this inconsiderate jerk.
preraph Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 Well, if any of you have been wondering what the opposite of a gentleman is, here you have it. Who needs that? Small things DO matter. Life together is full of these small things. 1
spiderowl Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I'm dating a guy and we were at the market buying groceries to make diner at his place. We just missed the bus and had to wait for another for 10 minutes. I was tired and my hands were full. I sat on the bench as it was sunny and wanted to spend time with him there. He told me he doesn't want to wait and wanted to leave me alone to wait for the bus as he goes on his own walking. I got mad and walked with him for half an hour. I think as it was a date his decision was stupid selfish and disrespectful to me. We were in no rush. He thinks it was ok because it's not like he left me in a foreign country so I could get lost. Your thoughts? He was rude and inconsiderate. This is the way you can expect to be treated by this guy if you continue to date him. Does it sound appealing? 3
smackie9 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Well if that is how he felt in that situation, that speaks volumes about his character. That would be a dealbreaker. This why we date....to find out what they are like, especially in day to day situations....this guy fails.
Raena Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 I almost feel like you should have let him walk home and then gone home yourself... not sure what I would have done with the groceries though. As others said, it's a huge red flag that on a date he wants to leave you to take care of the groceries so he could walk home alone. How long have you been dating him? Is this the first time he's acted like this?
TheTraveler Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 I'm dating a guy and we were at the market buying groceries to make diner at his place. We just missed the bus and had to wait for another for 10 minutes. I was tired and my hands were full. I sat on the bench as it was sunny and wanted to spend time with him there. He told me he doesn't want to wait and wanted to leave me alone to wait for the bus as he goes on his own walking. I got mad and walked with him for half an hour. I think as it was a date his decision was stupid selfish and disrespectful to me. We were in no rush. He thinks it was ok because it's not like he left me in a foreign country so I could get lost. Your thoughts? Did he want to leave you alone waiting for the next bus? And then show up and go home? I'm not sure what you're asking
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 Those are the things that show you how inconsiderate and selfish someone is. This guy is always going to do whatever he like regardless of how it affects you. It's only going to go downhill from here. 2
Author ohso Posted February 27, 2017 Author Posted February 27, 2017 I almost feel like you should have let him walk home and then gone home yourself... not sure what I would have done with the groceries though. Yes, that's what was bugging me too. I just didn't know what to do. I was speechless.
Author ohso Posted February 27, 2017 Author Posted February 27, 2017 Did he want to leave you alone waiting for the next bus? And then show up and go home? Yep. Thanks everyone. It's pretty clear what the answer to my thread is.
Redhead14 Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 I'm dating a guy and we were at the market buying groceries to make diner at his place. We just missed the bus and had to wait for another for 10 minutes. I was tired and my hands were full. I sat on the bench as it was sunny and wanted to spend time with him there. He told me he doesn't want to wait and wanted to leave me alone to wait for the bus as he goes on his own walking. I got mad and walked with him for half an hour. I think as it was a date his decision was stupid selfish and disrespectful to me. We were in no rush. He thinks it was ok because it's not like he left me in a foreign country so I could get lost. Your thoughts? It doesn't matter what HE thinks, what matters is what YOU think and how that behavior made you feel and whether or not he respects all that and he doesn't. I was tired and my hands were full. -- If he was any kind of a gentleman, he would have been carrying some of that load at least. it's not like he left me in a foreign country so I could get lost. -- I would have handed him the groceries to carry back to his place, taken the bus to my home and told him to get lost. 4
Miss Peach Posted February 27, 2017 Posted February 27, 2017 If he were a gentleman, I agree with the others he would have helped you and prioritied spending time with you unless there was a reason. If there was, he should have told you prior to leaving and not give you the response he gave. If a man did that to me, I would catch the bus home and forget the guy.
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