ZayKayWill Posted March 6, 2017 Posted March 6, 2017 I've had some guy friends. I'm not sure with one what was going on. He was probably too good looking for me, but it's not like I went after him. In fact, his friend who I worked with told me he'd seen me and where he worked and that he'd be thrilled if I went and said hi the next time I was in there (a rival record store). I did, and then he came to work at my record store. Not sure if that was coincidence or what. Anyway, he got real real involved in my "vine" and was overly curious and we went and ate and went out of town for concerts a time or two, but I was in love with someone else (2) the whole time I knew him, so that may have been why he didn't try anything, but I really don't think so. He did act a bit like a gossipy girlfriend and he ended up going after my ex-bf's 2nd wife right under his nose, so that left a bad taste. Anyway, he's a mystery (40 years later, he's asking my ex-bf about me). I think he was a meddler and can't trust him. But others have been just friends and I think it had to do with who I was. I was very independent, not very soft and feminine, just a street smart rocker chick with ambition and was probably too much for a lot of those guys to attempt to handle as a girlfriend. But I enjoyed my male friends a lot. Only one that got awkward and he was after me and shouldn't have been because he was best friends with an ex-bf. I was friends with the whole band, so I didn't suspect him of trying something until he did. I thought they were tighter than that amongst themselves. Anyway, no regrets. And no, I didn't have sex with any of the "just friends." To me, once you get naked, that is not "just friends." I know some guys would like you to think so, but no. Not necessarily true. I have one friend that I sleep with every now and then and if she were to say get with another guy, it wouldn't bother me. Now granted she doesn't live in the same area as me, but eh idk there have been times where it's been just a casual sex thing and they got bfs and it didn't bother me. To me 'more than just friends' means you develop feelings for the person. Feelings deeper than just friendship. Hasn't so much been the case for me. Usually people who do sleep with others do end up developing feelings though, so I know what you mean.
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