JellyBelly4 Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months now and everything is great except the fact that he's overly friendly. He's a nice guy and kind of socially awkward so he's prone to do random things with out thinking about it. We work together and there has been a few times that I had to talk to him about other women who work there that don t know their boundaries and he respected that I felt uncomfortable with him interacting with them because it goes to far. He said he wouldn t continue any type of friendship with them but there's one who he makes excuses for. I told him I was uncomfortable with their closeness because he just started being cool with her randomly, he would leave his building to go talk to her, come home with a story about her everyday, she texted him about things that don t have anything to do with work, and when she invites him out among other coworkers he jumps to it, but he questions when I invite him out. Me and him work in seperate buildings but I work in the same dorm with the girl. One time he walked me into the building and her and other coworkers were there talking. While she's sitting at the desk, he goes to stand right in front of her and is uncontrollably staring at this girl. He didn't even notice I was upset. I told him from then that that had to be cut loose and he respected that. Well the smoke cleared from that situation and I thought we had an understanding but I called up to his building to talk to him at work and he was in her office helping her with a test. I got upset and he didn t understand why. I told him that if this wasn t a situation that I had to speak on before I wouldn t have a problem but it is. Am I being too harsh on this situation or should I move on because I respect him when he tells me he s uncomfortable with others but he s making excuses when it comes to me.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 It appears he's got a little crush. Also, what do you mean he said he's uncomfortable with others and that he makes excuses when it comes to you?
Author JellyBelly4 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Posted February 26, 2017 I mean if he thinks that someone is trying me or he doesn't trust someone around me I don't even think twice about cutting them off, be when I say anything, he makes excuses to why I shouldn't be on him about it.
GoldSparkz Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 It sounds more and more like he's attracted to her the further I read. If he only saw her as a friend, I ask myself, would he act like that if she was a guy? No. You say he is socially awkward, so he is probably lapping up the attention from two women for the first to time in his life. He sounds young and immature. It sounds like you need a man who is more socially ept, has experience with women and is more mature. You've reiterated your feelings and he isn't willing to comprise in the same way you have. Sorry but personally, I can't see this romance going anywhere. He will make you more and more insecure if he doesn't respect boundaries. I would take the initiative and dump him before he gives you more of a reason to.
coolheadal Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I mean if he thinks that someone is trying me or he doesn't trust someone around me I don't even think twice about cutting them off, be when I say anything, he makes excuses to why I shouldn't be on him about it. Forget him and go do your own thing. If you were meant to be together you will be. But I can clearly see where you going with this. Tell him your stop standing for his nonsense. You can do better than him. If you tolerate this you have to deal with him and her. I would never deal with such a disrespectful person your just wasting your time with him. 1
Marc878 Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 Having a third in a relationship doesn't work well does it? IMO go your own way. You've made your feelings felt and obviously he's not mature enough to understand the position this puts you in. You can't fix this. He'd have to and apparently he isn't willing 2
preraph Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 You are not being unreasonable. If he thinks you're so stupid he can play this off as nothing, then he doesn't respect you very much. He is ALL over this girl and she is all over him and you may as well get out now and let them go at it. Anytime a man makes excuses for a woman, it's a no-win situation. He will demonize you for it, no matter how conniving she and he both are. Dump him. He's leaving anyway if she'll ever have him. Meanwhile he's hugely disrespectful and big liar! You can do better. 2
Author JellyBelly4 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Posted February 26, 2017 You are not being unreasonable. If he thinks you're so stupid he can play this off as nothing, then he doesn't respect you very much. He is ALL over this girl and she is all over him and you may as well get out now and let them go at it. Anytime a man makes excuses for a woman, it's a no-win situation. He will demonize you for it, no matter how conniving she and he both are. Dump him. He's leaving anyway if she'll ever have him. Meanwhile he's hugely disrespectful and big liar! You can do better. Best one yet . 1
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