LovelyDoll206 Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 Long story short, I got back with an ex that was locked up in a county jail for little over a month for a "crime" that is a felony and absoutely ridiculous and not even worth the judgement if you heard the nature of it. I m not sure if I regret my decision to get back with him especially since we ve had a long, rough history prior. Due to this felony he will now on his record for 7 years it hinders him of a lot. I currently am out of my lease I was in for 2 years and am hopping from place to place until I find another one. I am providing the shelter, mostly food, and everything else while he has the luxury of getting rides to and from places from friends he depends on, depends on friends for places to stay if he needs to and he is currently been out for almost a month and have yet to look for an actual paying job. He works long hours at a recording studio and is somewhat on a management team but it pays no money right now. Meanwhile I m putting in all the work for things and I m starting to resent him. He s going out to parties, hanging out with friends but have not put in priority to help provide for himself. I personally want to move out of state for school, work and better quality of life reasons but he s on probation for the next year and can t do so, I ve been dreaming to move for many months while we were broken up. Now he s trying to convince me it s a stupid idea, and depend on me like he does for others and I ll be stuck in a state that makes me so unhappy. ADVICE?
d0nnivain Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 If you are annoyed, end things. I don't know about the penal law by you but for something to be a felony, you must serve more than 365 days in jail in my state. If he was in jail -- as opposed to prison -- for a little over a month, this may have been plead down to a misdemeanor. Also felony convictions stay on your record forever, not just 7 years, unless you are eligible after 10 years to apply to have them expunged. Technicalities aside if this is an issue for you act. Vote with your feet & break up with him.
dumbass2 Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 I read your thread from back in May last year. I have to ask why you felt the need to get back with him instead of moving on and trying to find someone who would treat you half way decent? If you looking for advice on if you should stay or not, I'm pretty sure you know the answer that already. Don't fight what you logic and your gut is telling you. Move on and far away from him. He will hold you back. 1
sc98cbra Posted February 26, 2017 Posted February 26, 2017 . . . I got back with an ex that was locked up in a county jail for little over a month for a "crime" that is a felony and absoutely [sic] ridiculous and not even worth the judgement if you heard the nature of it. A person's status as a felon wouldn't bother me so long as the person was making active improvements to their lifestyle choices. Due to this felony he will now on his record for 7 years it hinders him of a lot. I currently am out of my lease I was in for 2 years and am hopping from place to place until I find another one. I am providing the shelter, mostly food, and everything else while he has the luxury of getting rides to and from places from friends he depends on, depends on friends for places to stay if he needs to and he is currently been out for almost a month It can be difficult for felons to find employment, especially considering that the charge was recent. My cousin is a convicted felon, charged several years ago, and still finds it difficult to find employment outside of the food and beverage industry. He is currently a bartender. He has made significant improvements to his lifestyle choices, but continues to struggle finding meaningful employment due to his conviction. . . .ha yet to look for an actual paying job. He works long hours at a recording studio and is somewhat on a management team but it pays no money right now. Why is he volunteering at a recording studio? Is the possibility of employment from this studio in the near future? Meanwhile I m putting in all the work for things and I m starting to resent him. He s going out to parties, hanging out with friends but have not put in priority to help provide for himself. It doesn't sound as if he has any desire to improve his life. I personally want to move out of state for school, work and better quality of life reasons but he s on probation for the next year and can t do so, I ve been dreaming to move for many months while we were broken up. Now he s trying to convince me it s a stupid idea, and depend on me like he does for others and I ll be stuck in a state that makes me so unhappy. ADVICE? You should do what is best for you. Do not let him hold you back. From what you've said, it sounds like he needs a swift kick in the ass (figuratively speaking). As I stated above, if he is not continuously improving his life, even with a felony conviction under his belt, you should not be with him. He is holding you back. It sounds as if he is simply milking you until you've had enough. My analysis would be different if he was attempting to improve himself, even considering his past. I would expressly let him know to either improve his life or you're catching the first chance out of the state. sb
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