bubumon Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 Hi all, Went on 4 dates with a guy that I really liked a few months ago over the course of a couple of weeks (didn't sleep with him but did everything but in our last date). He texted a few days after our last date then silence. I texted him a couple of non-committal "How are you doings" over the next couple of weeks to which he had responded enthusiastically, but not initiated another date (nor have I). It's been about 2 months since we last saw each other and I know I know I should move on and let go which is something I've been trying very hard to do during this time, but he's still on my mind. I know the assumptions - he could be in a relationship with someone else right now, he's not interested in me at all, blah blah blah. But no matter what I do I still can't stop the "what if I had asked him out on a date" in the previous texts. Too late now. But I'm playing around with the idea of re-initiating contact with him somehow just in case he I don't know maybe has had a change of heart or will be pleasantly surprised to hear from me? Any suggestions on what to say, if I go through with it?
KBob Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 If he wanted to go out with you again he would have initiated, then or now. You should move on and find a guy that wants to date you, because there are many that will want to. 1
Miss Spider Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 (edited) I agree with kbob. Doubtful he would have let you go like that if he felt something with you. Edited February 25, 2017 by Cookiesandough
Erik30 Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 Yeah I agree with the other posters. It's not what you want to hear, but if I'm really into a girl I'm not going to disappear after 4 dates. (And completely stop texting) A guy who likes you wouldn't just let 2 months go by without making an effort to see you again
cucumber95 Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 If he wanted to go out with you again he would have initiated, then or now. You should move on and find a guy that wants to date you, because there are many that will want to. I don't really agree with that. He probably wanted to see if she is interested, some guys like when girls give interests as well, if they don't then they give up I am guy like that, and if girl would never initiate any date then I would just forget even if I liked her very much. Remember everybody is different
d0nnivain Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 Let me ask you this, if the technology of texting, e-mail or other impersonal way of communicating did not exist do you like him enough to be wiling to actually call him & talk to him for this planned reconnection? It's much scarier when it's "live" & not a throw away text. On the theory that we regret more in life the things we don't do, I'm going to go against the grain & CW. Go ahead. Reach out. Be bold & give it a try. Do understand that nothing or very little will come of it because he wasn't into you enough in the first place to do anything for 60 days. He may come to wrong conclusions about your motives & your boundaries. You may be setting a bad precedent that you will always do all the work in this relationship. Or, there is a very small chance that he was shy or hesitant & will be thrilled that you took the initiative. While that last one is possible, it's highly improbable. If you reach out & nothing happens you can always say you tried. Just mentally prepare yourself for the rejection.
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