Funtastic Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 (edited) My ex contacted me recently by sending me pictures of himself conquering a fear of his. We hadn't spoken for nearly a month. He commented that he was sending because he'd noticed that I'd unblocked. I replied after a day with one word of support and left it at that. We haven't spoken since(4 days). The breakup itself was extremely emotional. We cried in each other's arms for a full day. Our breakup was drawn out of the course of over a month. We still loved each other very much, saw each other weekly (LD relationship) even when broken up. We broke up over trust issues, but my ex was very conflicted about getting back together. A big part of him wanted to jump back in immediately, but my questioning of some of his friendships made him reconsider(later the lure of single life had him conflicted). I don't know how to proceed given that I still hope to reconcile one day. I'd like some advice. Please advise! Edited February 24, 2017 by Funtastic
spiderowl Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 My ex contacted me recently by sending me pictures of himself conquering a fear of his. We hadn't spoken for nearly a month. He commented that he was sending because he'd noticed that I'd unblocked. I replied after a day with one word of support and left it at that. We haven't spoken since(4 days). The breakup itself was extremely emotional. We cried in each other's arms for a full day. Our breakup was drawn out of the course of over a month. We still loved each other very much, saw each other weekly (LD relationship) even when broken up. We broke up over trust issues, but my ex was very conflicted about getting back together. A big part of him wanted to jump back in immediately, but my questioning of some of his friendships made him reconsider(later the lure of single life had him conflicted). I don't know how to proceed given that I still hope to reconcile one day. I'd like some advice. Please advise! How can you reconcile if you have trust issues? Who did not trust who? Has anything changed on that front?
Author Funtastic Posted February 25, 2017 Author Posted February 25, 2017 How can you reconcile if you have trust issues? Who did not trust who? Has anything changed on that front? Hi spiderowl, thanks for your reply. We can't, and so I was working on better understanding him during the breakup. It's something we believed could be reconciled over time; the issues were not so much based on long-standing issues of distrust, but personality differences. My ex is close friends with many of the woman he's had a thing for, still goes out with some of them one:one (and pays), and will visit at their homes and stay most of the evening. I do not believe he ever cheated by our relationship standards, but I would feel unsettled sometimes.
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