2005tahoe Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 I recently met this lady on coffee meets bagel. We talked on there for a few days and then exchanged numbers and followed up with text and a phone call. We set up a date for tonight at 8, which is great. We would have small talk via text during the day while working but Tuesday, 3 days ago, I asked her a question and she never responded. Now I don't know what to do about the date tonight, cancel it, ghost (like I feel she has done) or show up anyways. I have not gotten my expectations too high with this. What would LS do?
Larryville Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 I asked her a question and she never responded. Depends on the question... but she is less than lukewarm with you anyway... 1
Redhead14 Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 I recently met this lady on coffee meets bagel. We talked on there for a few days and then exchanged numbers and followed up with text and a phone call. We set up a date for tonight at 8, which is great. We would have small talk via text during the day while working but Tuesday, 3 days ago, I asked her a question and she never responded. Now I don't know what to do about the date tonight, cancel it, ghost (like I feel she has done) or show up anyways. I have not gotten my expectations too high with this. What would LS do? I would have called her last night to confirm . . . nevertheless, you should text her and say "looking forward to tonight. See ya at 8"! If she doesn't respond, you make other plans. (I'd say call her, but she's likely at work). And, I'm kinda wondering what the question you asked her was . . .
Lilyana76 Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 I would at least shoot her a text and say something like "are we still on for tonight?" If no response then don't go. And I wouldn't put any more effort into her at that point. 3
Author 2005tahoe Posted February 24, 2017 Author Posted February 24, 2017 Depends on the question... but she is less than lukewarm with you anyway... I just asked her what she was up too since we haven't talked all day. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 You being vague isn't helping. You needed to confirm the date & time. Very straightforward. Asking what she is doing is the wrong Q. Suppose she answers by telling you what she is doing at this moment -- reading a book, working, standing in line at the grocery store. How does that information tell you whether she plans to meet you tonight? It doesn't. Do not ghost. That is rude. 2
preraph Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Like many people, she probably hates someone who wants to text for no reason. But you have a reason to touch base about the date now. Just say "Just confirming our date. Is 8 okay?" 1
angel.eyes Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Call/text to confirm your plans for the date tonight. Show up! (...but have a backup plan for your evening in case she's a no-show.)
mortensorchid Posted February 25, 2017 Posted February 25, 2017 I'd send a text on the day of the meeting asking "are we still on for tonight at (time)?" If she does not respond, move on. Don't show up at the place and don't send demanding texts or call as to why she blew you off. It happens, move on.
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