nab0610 Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Hey everyone, I had this great first date with this woman. We were out for around 4 hours. Felt like an immediate connection and she has quickly responded to my tests since then. WE setup a second date and she joked about making sure she was on time. So I said how about I just pick you up She said OK just let me double check when I'm eating brunch. Conversation changed the next day and we talked briefly about her exam then this crazy drink I recently had that was amazing. At end of the conversation I asked her OK! so shall i pick you up for our date on Sunday Suddenly radio silence. She had been very responsive up to that point. What did I do wrong and how do I recover?
grabaka Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Im in the same boat man....you almost described the same exact situation I am dealing with. Anyways, it sucks.....my theory is they are playing hard to get or that they we never interested and wanted a free meal! Like I said it sucks....I feel your pain though.
Ieris Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 The only times I have switched off like that is when the guy has said something that offended me. If I was in your shoes.. I would wait a while then text, "Hey, are you OK?". If she doesn't reply then forget about her.
BaileyB Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 She may not be comfortable yet telling you where she lives and riding alone with you in the car. Not saying that you are a bad guy, but we have to be cautious. I would usually want to meet a guy for the second date... I think you wait for her to tell you she is comfortable enough with you for you to pick her up for the date. I would usually give the clue... "Do you want to meet there or would you rather pick me up..." Just don't pressure her. Give her time to feel comfortable. Good luck.
Larryville Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Suddenly radio silence. She had been very responsive up to that point. What did I do wrong and how do I recover? You are one of many dudes... take a number. Not that into you. 2
CptInsano Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Yes, probably different levels of attraction. If she was really into you and just not comfortable with you picking her up, she would have proposed to meet you elsewhere. You can give her more time and ping her later, but you were probably more attracted to her than the other way around.
SevenCity Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 The only times I have switched off like that is when the guy has said something that offended me. If I was in your shoes.. I would wait a while then text, "Hey, are you OK?". If she doesn't reply then forget about her. Don't do this - it is so needy and desperate I'm turned off by reading it. She's fine, nothing happened to cause her to be unable to respond to you. Ball is in her court - wait for her to respond. In the meantime start dating other women. If she comes around great, if not oh well next. Some women can do this (especially the better looking they are) to test to see if you'll be a stalker. They are afraid for their safety and consciously (or unconsciously) will test you by not responding right away to see how you react. If you start reaching out again you exhibit behaviors of a future stalker. Stop, chill, don't reach out AGAIN. 3
Author nab0610 Posted February 26, 2017 Author Posted February 26, 2017 Don't do this - it is so needy and desperate I'm turned off by reading it. She's fine, nothing happened to cause her to be unable to respond to you. Ball is in her court - wait for her to respond. In the meantime start dating other women. If she comes around great, if not oh well next. Some women can do this (especially the better looking they are) to test to see if you'll be a stalker. They are afraid for their safety and consciously (or unconsciously) will test you by not responding right away to see how you react. If you start reaching out again you exhibit behaviors of a future stalker. Stop, chill, don't reach out AGAIN. This is what I did, and yes your right texting are you OK would be a bad idea. She offered to meet me over by the mall beforehand said she was eating brunch over there.
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