Merhistheword Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 My girlfriend and I haven't been getting along lately. We fight over almost everything and cant seem to agree. My co-worker is currently in the process of moving and is placing all of his furniture in storage. When I went over to his place, I seen that he had a set of bunk beds. (My girlfriend has two kids and they like to sleep together. They usually end up sharing a small, not even twin bed, just so they can be close together. We discussed moving the queen bed out of the guest room but that leaves the guest room with no bed) I immediately think "This would be perfect!". I asked my friend if he was willing to sell, he said yes. I sent a picture to my girlfriend asking if she wanted them, she replies "no". She doesn't care too much for him and thinks he is rather nasty because he "Gets around". So I tell him, let me talk to her and ill get back to you. When I get home my friend calls and tells me that I can just have them, since ill be moving them out his place. As I'm talking to him my girlfriend scream out at the top of her lungs " I DONT WANT THAT MANS NASTY A** Sh*t!", I'm extremely embarrassed. He doesn't know that she doesn't like him, matter of fact, she has never met him. She refuses to meet him because of the stories she has heard from other co-workers.(Who are extremely judgmental) I hang up the phone and tell her how embarrassed I am and I cant understand why she doesn't want that for her kids? He never slept on the beds, they were his kids. He only see's his kids maybe twice a year, so the beds haven't been used much. The beds weren't coming with the mattresses. I WAS GOING TO GO OUT AND BUY NEW ONES. I told her if she didn't want them for the kids then I would put them in the guest bedroom and she can move the queen to their room.(FYI...I pay for everything and the house is in MY name) She continues to yell at me saying things like... I have no backbone, people run over me, go suck a D**k, I'm dumb, and stupid! WHAT! All this over a bed? This isn't the first time she has had one of these spells. She also told me that I don't have kids and her kids aren't mine, so stop worrying about them. After all that, I broke up with her...I told her that I'm absolutely done. I don't feel like I deserve that. We have been together for two years now and I love her kids like they are mine, I would do anything for them. That hurt more than anything. I know they aren't my kids but I love them like they are. I would never think about taking their dads place or pretend like I can make decisions for them. I was only thinking about how much they would love the bunk beds. I left and continue to receive text from her telling me I was wrong, and I should of told him no when she told me to. NOT ONE SORRY. She refuses to say that she was wrong for her words, instead she just says I should have told him no and left it at that. Is my thought process messed up or is this girl psycho. I
LostOnes05 Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 She is bonkers man. Leave that relationship before you make the mistake of having a child by her. If she already thinks you lack a backbone she'll try to run all over you if she ever gets pregnant (either at home or in court). You tried to be nice and think about her children...she doesn't want you to, so if you decide to stay with her don't do anything for them. If they wake up at night from a bad dream let her take care of it. If she is running late and needs to pick up her kids, let her make arrangements with their father. The only way to break nasty people like that is to either remove yourself from the situation entirely or stick it out and watch them squirm when they have to beg for help. But in all honesty, it wouldn't be fair to the kids to stay in a situation like this. Leave her and let her handle them on her own, since that's what she wants...out of your place. 1
Zahara Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 (FYI...I pay for everything and the house is in MY name) She continues to yell at me saying things like... I have no backbone, people run over me, go suck a D**k, I'm dumb, and stupid! WHAT! All this over a bed? No, it's not over the bed. This is how she views you in general. I bet this is not the first time she's run you down while you've tolerated it. You've enforced the bold in her mind. The house is in your name and you left? She needs to find a place and move out. Is my thought process messed up or is this girl psycho. Please don't go back. I can't imagine these kids having to live with an adult that behave this way. It's the only ones I feel sorry for because they have no choice but to live with her. Move on from this. It's abusive and definitely will continue to hurt your self-esteem. This is not a relationship.
Chilli Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 She sounds like a cold, hard, ungrateful and absolutely bat **** crazy women to me and l'm sorry to say but she also doesn't have very much respect for you . But don't take that personally though because you sound like a very decent person but that's just something she can't relate too. Such a shame for the kids being around this sort of thing in their lives too. But l'd do myself a favor if l was you and stay broken up with her. You can't work with someone like that unless you want to become a cold angry miserable ******* back to her but who want's to live like that and what would the point be. Maybe you can explain things to the kids and remain friends, just that you guys aren't getting along and it's best , don't run their mum down though they already have enough to cope with her. But maybe be there for them as support , even if they can just have your number and know that they can just call you anytime or come see you sometimes or you can take them out somewhere just as a friend and being there for them. Good luck
Author Merhistheword Posted February 23, 2017 Author Posted February 23, 2017 She is bonkers man. Leave that relationship before you make the mistake of having a child by her. If she already thinks you lack a backbone she'll try to run all over you if she ever gets pregnant (either at home or in court). You tried to be nice and think about her children...she doesn't want you to, so if you decide to stay with her don't do anything for them. If they wake up at night from a bad dream let her take care of it. If she is running late and needs to pick up her kids, let her make arrangements with their father. The only way to break nasty people like that is to either remove yourself from the situation entirely or stick it out and watch them squirm when they have to beg for help. But in all honesty, it wouldn't be fair to the kids to stay in a situation like this. Leave her and let her handle them on her own, since that's what she wants...out of your place. Appreciate the advice!You're right, I think the best thing to do is leave that situation!
Author Merhistheword Posted February 23, 2017 Author Posted February 23, 2017 No, it's not over the bed. This is how she views you in general. I bet this is not the first time she's run you down while you've tolerated it. You've enforced the bold in her mind. The house is in your name and you left? She needs to find a place and move out. Please don't go back. I can't imagine these kids having to live with an adult that behave this way. It's the only ones I feel sorry for because they have no choice but to live with her. Move on from this. It's abusive and definitely will continue to hurt your self-esteem. This is not a relationship. You're right, lately ive been dealing with a lot of treatment that I dont deserve. I have been feeding her behavior by giving her everything she doesn't deserve. Thanks for the advice!
springy Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 That is absolutely awful of her, and an extreme over reaction. I hope you don't let her suck you back in!
Author Merhistheword Posted February 23, 2017 Author Posted February 23, 2017 She sounds like a cold, hard, ungrateful and absolutely bat **** crazy women to me and l'm sorry to say but she also doesn't have very much respect for you . But don't take that personally though because you sound like a very decent person but that's just something she can't relate too. Such a shame for the kids being around this sort of thing in their lives too. But l'd do myself a favor if l was you and stay broken up with her. You can't work with someone like that unless you want to become a cold angry miserable ******* back to her but who want's to live like that and what would the point be. Maybe you can explain things to the kids and remain friends, just that you guys aren't getting along and it's best , don't run their mum down though they already have enough to cope with her. But maybe be there for them as support , even if they can just have your number and know that they can just call you anytime or come see you sometimes or you can take them out somewhere just as a friend and being there for them. Good luck I feel myself becoming cold and angry for the simple fact ive allowed it! The more I think about it the more I see the truth! I guess its true when they say love is blind! I will definitely try to be there for the kids but if she doesn't allow that, O well.
preraph Posted February 24, 2017 Posted February 24, 2017 Look, she sounds really irrational and messed up. And her rudeness is really inexcusable. You were trying to help her and she went psycho over bunk beds. I think you know this isn't someone to have your kids, right? You take those bunk beds and then give them to some single mother who will be very grateful to have them, especially if you are able to deliver them. So hard to get people to deliver. This is not a good woman.
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