kmab Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 For fair warning, I have a very lengthy story to tell. I'm sorry, but I don't know how to paraphrase it. I'll try my best though. So, I recently ended a thing with this guy that had been trying to get with me for 5 YEARS. He would talk to me for a bit over the years, but we'd always fall off when he realized I wasn't interested. Still he kept coming back. It's not that I thought he was a bad guy. It's just that I wasn't ready for a relationship, nor did I feel comfortable giving up my independent nature. This past summer, however, I caved when he asked me out again. I figured that I could give the relationship a chance and see where things go. To my surprise, the first few months were amazing. He was almost like a prince, treating me so kindly and all of that. I was so impressed, and I slowly found myself falling for him more and more. Everything was fine until I started noticing some major red flags. Over the course of our "relationship," we had gone on one date.ONE. The rest of the time, he would always want to go on double dates with his best friend and my best friend. At first, I didn't mind. Eventually, however, it started to bug me because it seemed like he never wanted to spend time with me alone. The only time we were alone was when we were on a couch or bed and he wanted to fool around. At first, I was okay with it, thinking it was something I had to do to keep his interest. Eventually, however, it got to be something that I despised doing. But I liked him, so I did it for him. One night, things went too far and we actually did end up having sex. It was my first time, and I regretted doing it because it wasn't something I truly wanted to do at the moment. It was almost the worst thing I've ever experienced. he made it all about himself, and I felt robbed afterwards. Still, I pushed it down because I didn't want him to freak out. To my horror, I ended up having a pregnancy scare. I told him about it, and he was scared, but supportive nevertheless. I felt comfortable knowing I could lean on him for support. Shortly after, though, everything changed. I noticed that he was becoming more and more distant. he would take hours to respond. And when he did respond, the messages seemed dry, almost like he didn't want to talk to me. When I checked his snapchat, I was shocked to find that he was posting alot of degrading material, and that he told the world that he was single. I was crushed by this. When I tried to talk to him about it, he brushed it off. The next day, we barely talked, but he made it a point to mention something that made it seem like he blamed me for almost getting pregnant. I was so angry that I ignored him for 4 days to reevaluate everything. When I tried to talk to him a few days later to get everything settled, he ignored me. I gave him some time, then tried to call him. He didn't answer my call, and he didn't try to call back. I was so mad and hurt that I ended up posting a poem on snapchat that was very well written, but basically said that I wouldn't chase after him and that if he didn't want to talk to me, fine. When he saw it, he immediately went on his own tirade. He went on snapchat saying that I was a hoe (even though he was the only boy I'd ever been with), and listed all these things he hated about me. At first, it didn't affect me because I didn't know it as directed towards me. It didn't hit me until my friends that also follow him asked if I was okay. Afterwards, I tried texting him with a long, detailed message explaining exactly how I felt, and he ignored me. I was so confused. He hasn't texted me back since. He ignores me, but he still watches all of my snapchat stories. I've been trying to move on, but I can't figure out what went wrong. I don't think I did anything wrong. And I did not deserve to be called a hoe. The whole thing is confusing and I was wondering if I can get some advice. What do you guys think? Is it him being immature, or did I do something that I'm not sure of? Did he ever really like me? And is his anger because I broke up with him? What are your thoughts?
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