Author Shokes97 Posted February 22, 2017 Author Posted February 22, 2017 Can you think of anything you might do or think to yourself that might keep the hope alive? It may not even be a conscious thing, but if you can identify something, then you can try to change it. For example: you might read old love letters/texts, check her social media or emails, or have imaginary conversations or fantasies about her in your mind. These are just a few examples to consider. If you try to change those behaviors, like distracting yourself when you catch yourself daydreaming about her or blocking her social media, you are making a conscious decision to move on. Sometimes changing small things can start a chain reaction, but it is usually a process that takes time. It depends how much you really want to move on. Have a think about it, and see if there is anything you can start to change. Also, I'm sorry you are dealing with depression. I know it things can't be easy right now, but hang in there! I honestly don't that's the problem. I deactivated all social media (I saw about her ex awhile ago.) But I decided to get rid of it all. It's been about a month now. I never read through old messages or texts. Deleted and blocked on every platform and wiped pictures everytning. That is why it's so confusing as to why I am still holding hope. However I do catch myself having imaginary conversation at times. I'm just always on LS seeing how others are coping. And thanks the reason for the break up was due to my clincal depression which I never wanted to treat but I am doing so now for me. Maybe doing something like gym will take my mind off things. I think part of the reason for hope can be the sudden ons and offs. She would tell me there's no chance of anything due to her circumstances. But other times before nc say she could see something if I just leave her be for awhile. Some days she says a chance is there and others it's I have no feelings for you. Ever since the hot/cold and our meet up on valentines day I have decided to go nc for me. Maybe that's part of where this hope is coming from due to mixed messages. It's not easy being on medication very draining to even find the motivation to be active as well. Oh well I guess if I stick to nc I'll heal off soon. Any tips on how to go a long periods of time with nc? I catch myself able to do it for a week and cave in.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 I honestly don't that's the problem. I deactivated all social media (I saw about her ex awhile ago.) But I decided to get rid of it all. It's been about a month now. I never read through old messages or texts. Deleted and blocked on every platform and wiped pictures everytning. That is why it's so confusing as to why I am still holding hope. However I do catch myself having imaginary conversation at times. I'm just always on LS seeing how others are coping. And thanks the reason for the break up was due to my clincal depression which I never wanted to treat but I am doing so now for me. Maybe doing something like gym will take my mind off things. I think part of the reason for hope can be the sudden ons and offs. She would tell me there's no chance of anything due to her circumstances. But other times before nc say she could see something if I just leave her be for awhile. Some days she says a chance is there and others it's I have no feelings for you. Ever since the hot/cold and our meet up on valentines day I have decided to go nc for me. Maybe that's part of where this hope is coming from due to mixed messages. It's not easy being on medication very draining to even find the motivation to be active as well. Oh well I guess if I stick to nc I'll heal off soon. Any tips on how to go a long periods of time with nc? I catch myself able to do it for a week and cave in. Well there is your problem. If you are still in contact with her then you are going to find it incredibly difficult to stop feeling that way. You may have no other choice but to go no contact and block all communication with her. Unfortunately you can't put a time frame on that sort a thing. A week isn't going to help. Sometimes we have to make a hard decision in the short term to help us be happier in the long run. It really depends how badly you want to move on.
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