kismet Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 To any of my old friends who are still out there, and who were with me through the agony of being the other woman, and waiting, and believing... or to any new friends who are going through that now... it can happen, it does happen. I truly believed in my MM, and he did leave his wife and was ready to start our life together. And then, I realized that someone who would claim to love me as much as he did, but would let me wait 2 years while he stayed with a woman he "hated," did not love me the way I deserved to be loved. We broke up, painfully but peaceably, and he went back to her (big surprise). We started talking again after a while, and he insisted that he immediately would be on the fast track to divorce if I were to tell him I'd changed my mind. But if he was unable to extract himself from his marriage for no other reason than his alleged unhappiness, then, I told him, don't bother. Was this an example of wanting what I can't have, and when I can, I don't want it anymore? Possibly. But I truly believe that if he had taken action sooner, things would have been a lot different. I didn't see enough respect or sensitivity on his part, and I won't deny myself that in a partner. But-- true love can be found in these difficult situations. It happens. If you truly believe, don't let anyone else bring you down with their doubt or judgments. But if something inside you really doesn't believe, listen to that little voice; it is usually the wisest one we may hear.
Miffy Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Wise words Kismet, I certainly had that 'nagging doubt' inside me, things that didn't quite ring true, actions that didn't match up to words. I spent too long looking at the outside and shut off my inner doubts, when I finally (had a breakdown and) spent time to explore the issues, I found that the guy I was in love with did not exist - except for in my head.
newbby Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 kismet, thanks for sharing this. i have often thought this. i think you are right, you put in so much and in the end it becomes such a battle that when you finally get there, your love has been all used up.
angrydragon Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 kismet, I am sorry for your situation. maybe you should read my post(two loves in life). Just remember, whatever happened, already happened. you can't change that. I am pretty sure that there is a guy out there just waiting to sweep you off your feet. Just don't close any doors. You see, right now you are hurt and want to do anything to feel not vulnerable. This includes shutting out all men. Please be careful. The reason I say that is because you never know when your mr. right may come along. And if your shut out, you will not see him coming. There's another thing you need to be mindful of, that being the rebound guy. So you see, trying to deel with your emotions right now will be very difficult, but not undoable. You need to find a balance of emotion, and walk with it. I do hope you find your happiness some day, and I hope i have helped.
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