How should I deal with what I have found.

[dentri]

There's this girl I have been seeing, at the moment we are getting on very well.

 

When I first met her, she said that she'd finished a long term relationship, since then we have met up quite a few times and we have gotten on very well.

 

When we have been together, one subject hasn't been brought up: her previous relationship.

This is partly because I respect her, wanted to get to know her better and because I found myself starting to fall for her.

 

Now I have done something stupid, I don't want it to spoil what we have, but at the same time I want to know if what I found is true.

 

Your possibly wondering what I have done, I put her name into Google, and to my surprise it brought up more than I wanted. Before you jump to conclusions it wasn't porn.

 

It was one of the wedding sites based in the UK, and on was her name and her 'ex', announcing their wedding in a month's time.

 

When we have been together, she hasn't worn any rings on either hand, and she hasn't said that she is getting married in a month's time.

 

What should I do? How should I deal with this issue?

 

Currently I haven't told anyone about this issue.

 

Should I ask some of her friends whom I am on good terms with, or should I just ask her.

 

I need some advise, as I really like her a lot and I don't want to lose her by approaching this the wrong way.

[Outcast]

A lot of people have similar names. You can't be sure that the person you found on Google is her. And even if it were, Google would not have an announcement about a broken engagement and she has already told you she broke off a long-term relationship so IF the Google name is her, all it may mean is that she was engaged and is no longer.

[agnf666]

If you haven't know her all that well then it is too early to ask about prevoius relationships. Maybe the thing you found on google was posted before they broke up. That could be a really painful subject for her to bring up. I wouldn't tell her that you googled her name. that won't go over to well.

 

Maybe you could ask the friend about it. I would be really discret about the details of what you found. The friend will probably give you the right heads up that you are looking for. Usually friends do that. I would ask the friend first then maybe in a little while ask her. If she hasn't mention anything about him then that is a good sign. That shows that she is not dating you just to get him jealous or what not.

 

So, I would go with the flow. Take it slow. Ask her friend a few questions about her ex. Then after a few weeks of asking her friend then ask her. Good Luck

[dentri]

In an idiotic moment, I nearly ruined something good.

 

Your right, the wedding web site may not have updated their records regarding the broken engagement.

 

Thank you for your advice, which I will follow.

 

By taking it slow going with the flow.

When I see her friend next I shall be very discreet in the questions I ask about the ex. And in a few weeks time, after our friendship/relationship has grown stronger I shall ask her.

 

Thanks again.

[agnf666]

That sounds like a good idea to me!!! Good Luck... Keep us posted on this.