Rcrc Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 First post..so I've been courting a girl about 3yrs and everytime it comes down to getting her to commit she flakes out on me..gets scared..etc..so long as we don't talk about commitment she is perfect.no fights no arguing,feelmlike soul mates,love making is stellar etc..but she has this one hang up and she knows I want to be with her and only her and that I want her to be my wife.She comes up with a ton of excuses and like an idiot I wait for each excuse to pass and work out but in the end she won't commit.She just comes up with another excuseShe is there for me in every sense of the way..Day-night but won't commit.She does not accept money.She isn't using me in any way that I can tell other than for attention/romance/physical.She says she is just hurting me and needs to let me go so I decided to cut all connection off with her..social media etc..the only way she can reach me is to directly contact me.Ive decided to take myself completely out of her life as though I don't exist and it's tough because I feel like it may backfire.but my hope is that she realizes all I have done for her and do for her,and that she'll realize life without me is not what she wants.I think she needs a clear picture and any pressure I give her trying to make her my wife is actually counter productive..she runs everytime I chase..she is hard headed in some ways and always has to do it her way in her timing etc..so she feels like I'm "making her" do something she isn't ready for..that's why I decided to completely walk away..now she will not feel Any pressure and she can figure out on her own if she wants to be fully committed to me or not.its been 3 days and I haven't heard or seen any sign of her after she suggested to let me go and then i disappeared immediately..am I doing the right thing..just need a confidence boost..thank you
d0nnivain Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Good for you for risking everything to get what you want. I am confident you will have the wife & family you want with a loving committed partner. Sadly, I am equally confident that it won't be with the game playing flaky woman you have been dating for the past 3 years. If you have to resort to an ultimatum, you are in trouble. It will get worse before it gets better but in the end you will get what you want after you heal from the pain of losing this woman who didn't love you the way you love her. 1
Miss Spider Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 You completely did the right thing. Staying around on her terms she might never commit. She has no need to because she's getting what she wants with little "risk". If she's smart, she'll realize shortly how foolish she was to lose a good man who has been with her patiently for 3 years and how hard that is to find. Maybe it will be the nudge she needs off the fence into commitment. It's not fair to you. She feels unsure, not completely happy, or that she won't be happy with you long-term, that hurts, but fine. She should walk away. None of this endless excuses and dragging feet with someone's future on the line.
Alpha_Male Posted February 23, 2017 Posted February 23, 2017 I wait my ex for almost 4 years. Wasting time like an idiot. She's promise to marry with me. So for 3 years I spending by work harder on my business so I can build the better future with her. I reject party, I reject other girls. After all, she have so many excused. Been caught cheating on me one time, we break up for about 1 month. Continue back the relay from march/2016 (i was supposed to go travel at this time and seek new love). But after all i just an idiot. I can't accept this anymore, 15/feb 2017, made a call for saying good bye Today is my 8 days of NC And i bet she's already rebounding Its pain for me, but at least the burden is now gone Instead everytime i wakeup from the sleep and stressed thinking about my future relationship and marriage since i'm 28 this years Not gonna waste another time and being another year of stupidity
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