denzo Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) Hi, I have been browsing the forums for some comfort and I've decided to talk about my break up. I was with my ex for 4 years, 2 years long distance. I flew to NYC to meet her for 10 days, after that a few months later she came to stay with me, we were on cloud9. We started having money troubles and I lied about money to her, which broke her heart, which lead to being homeless for 3 weeks. But she stayed and stuck with me until finally I had her take up a room in a communal house while I lived elsewhere. She was unhappy, we'd fight over money while I tried working hard but we loved each other and she never turned her back on me. She had to go back in March 2016 and we planned to be together again and I helped her get an apartment and helped her as much as I could with her new apartment, her always living on foodstamps (she didn't get a job). She loves me and was adamant to be with me. I got a text message on the 12th of February from her as usual telling me "she missed me like crazy and loves me". Monday rolled by and she told me on Skype that she had met on of her old lovers whom she hadn't seen in 20 years, and I thought nothing of it really. She said he might be able to help her out as a friend, sending her some money. I felt uncomfortable but let it go. On Tuesday she messages me that she's been invited to stay with him so he could help her find a job, I asked her were you breaking up with me? She said no. We talked later that evening and she wanted to break up. We both cried I tried to talk to her as much as I could and told her that it wasn't worth doing that, but she had made her mind up and said that "we tried". She then started saying that it felt "uncomfortable" when I told her I loved her so much. And we talked for the next few days, and had been talking all week. Shes going to try a "dry run" with this guy for 30 days for her to move in with him. If not she'd come back to her own place. Friday I told her not to contact me until she came back, and then we'd see where we stand as friends. Then she became incredibly cold.. telling me she can't "see me romantically" and "Missed us at being frends" but then telling me she "cared about me" and that I "matter" Even though she said she "missed me like crazy" literally a day before seeing this guy. I don't know how someone can just switch off their feelings for another.. She's flying to see him today and I'm completely heartbroken, she told a mutual friend that she was worried it may not work out with his new guy/old lover but she "loves him" and has loved him all these years... I called her last night and it was civil..it was so odd as we'd had been so damn close literally 1 week ago..I asked her not to through away the first gift I gave her and she said of course not. Yes, she hadn't slept with him before or even seen him I can guarantee that... I'm in a dark place right now, typing this away, waking up from utter heartbreak. And I know you want to say to "forget her and move on". I cannot just forget what we'd have been through. Like a utter fool I'm going to try to work on myself these 30 days, maybe some days not getting up from bed, hoping. She even had my initial tattood onto her upper back.. Any advice would be wonderful. Edited February 22, 2017 by denzo
Maldives Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Firstly sorry to hear about ur pain im there wth u on that. Similar situation wth my ex NC now 3 mths we work together wich is not fun but anyway that's a whole nother story in itself. I hate to say this only because it's happenned to me a few times but I've learnt woman are always looking for a better option it's there natural instinct probably something to do wth rearing babies. I remember my 1st heart avmche I was u broke about to go to uni had 35 bux to my name the girl chose her ex fiancee best friend he got killed in a car accident and I came on the scene 4 mths later. I've had a tragic love life going thru my 5th heart break amazingly im healing and thinking of woman again i never thought I would but I definatly don't believe a word they say anymore. U shld of seen how much my current ex built me up. She would say things like ive never ever met anyone like u ur my soulmate I'll never leave u it'll be u leaving me. In the end she broke it off via sms something she use to complain to me about wen we would temporarily break up and swore she'd never do. There true colours always come out in the end. Woman are always looking for a free lunch. Donthn let anyone tell u otherwise or better option. This is gonna hurt but it's the truth no sugar coating here soryou ur not ready to hear this but u mentioned u struggled wth money it appears her old loversion has money and probably a place I takeep it for free? That's why she's gone pretty ugly truth but it's the way I read it. It's been done to me. Maybe this will make u feel better listening g to my sad sorry love life lol my ex before my current ex were together 3 yrs her and my well ex friend who I trusted and loved betrayed me and cheated together. I don't think she's that happy wth him I don't even know if there still together or watever but they got married and had a kid. There u go woman hey a necessary evil wth some of em i havent met a good one yet
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