PersonaPersona Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Okay guys, I need an outside opinion. I just got into a new relationship with this guy. And, just like everyone else, this guy has a past of other people he's been with. There's this one person that struck me as odd as soon as he told me about them and the way they keep in contact now. Long story short, my boyfriend got drunk (this was before he met me) and his best friend hooked him up with this one person; they did that for a while, and the rest is history. As of now, they are roommates in college, and ever since I heard about it, I immediately became unsettled. Personally, I don't see the point in keeping around ex-flings. So, he (on his own accord) promised me he'd move out next semester to be away from this one person. I was a bit as ease after that. Today, he came to me with a concern. He had told me that a couple of friends that this person knew were moving out of a apartment and seeing if my boyfriend and this old FWB would move in together to keep the apartment occupied (My boyfriend likes this offer because he's been wanting to get off campus). How this makes sense, I don't know. But immediatlely, I got fed up again and it led to another argument. I just don't see the point in continuing to live with someone who shouldn't have a significance in your life. I think it's weird and it makes me kind of uneasy. I also feel a little like I got smacked in the face, coming up to me with this idea he was offered is like saying, "Hey, I know I made a promise but I want to break it now because this awesome deal came up!" Like, honestly, what was the point in even asking me if I'd be okay with breaking a promise? Please help guys, do you agree or disagree with me? I need insight.
GoldSparkz Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Personally, if a guy respected me then he would understand my reservations about him living with a previous fling. Then for him to accept the new living arrangement despite everything that's been said suggests he's taking liberties with you ie seeing how far he can push you. This guy sounds as though he is easily led, can't handle his drink and has no respect for you. You have to set the tone in this relationship and show him that you have boundaries which he has now crossed. You've raised your concerns on more than one occasion and he refuses to acknowledge your point of view which is not a good basis for a relationship. Sorry, to say but I would break up with him and find someone who shows me the respect I deserve.
coolheadal Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) Sounds like you have doubts and you should be concern about it. Frankly anything goes today there are no rules for anyone. See that living conditions is open and like I just said if you tolerate it, then you don't know what's going on behind closed doors. Your not there 24/7.. Anyone breaks a promise doesn't desire your respect. He doing whatever he pleases and your allowing it to continue. You need to pull in your gut and move on. You can say this to him "Listen you do whatever you want but not with this girl (you).. I move on see ya never ever again!" bye Edited February 22, 2017 by coolheadal
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