giganto Posted February 21, 2017 Posted February 21, 2017 I know this girl in my workplace (different department and office) . Sometimes we ate together with colleagues or accidentally talk in the kitchen. One day she suggested that we run together. I said yes, i asked about it on the suggested day, She bailout by saying she would train hard. I said okay, no hard feelings but it hurt me inside. Fast forward to valentines, she asked me again on that day itself, gave me her number. I said okay, we ran for 4 km. I do run quite good but I haven't trained for sometimes and I am still building up my fitness. She's a better runner now. We talked in her native language. I am learning her language. I asked her, what normally she does on weekends. She said she meets this friend/or boyfriend (not so sure, but it's a guy), always on the road. She said she went to see his parents last week. I couldn't think clearly after that plus tiredness. I just let it be, hugged her and went home. I tried to act normally at workplace. I don't want to disturb someone else's lover. Sometimes i do feel she's attracted to me, smiling and smizing. Before I joined the office, I think she ate by herself, because i never see her socialise in the kitchen for the first two three weeks. I think after I talk to her, she's socialise more during lunch. I do think we have a quite good connection, but i never really use her number to contact her. I don't like to spend time on phone for communication in early stage. I don't want to have a false hope. Fyi, I just broke up with a girl, but it's past. I don't feel anything with her. What should i do to make it progressing with this girl?
preraph Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 You need to just ask her if she has a boyfriend. It sounds like she does and told you about it. You shouldn't move on her if she says she has a boyfriend. You can ask her if her and the boyfriend are exclusive or not. If she says no, then you could ask her out, but you'll just end up being jealous of her other boyfriend if you do. Nothing wrong with asking if she has a boyfriend, though. Good luck. 2
GoldSparkz Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 I agree with preraph; there is no way that you can progress until you find out about this other guy. It sounds like he is either her boyfriend or very close male friend given the fact that she met his parents. I would try not to fantasize about her too much until you know her status. 4
smackie9 Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Your feelings are "misinterpreting" her interaction with you as interest. Don't mistake friendliness as romantic interest. From what I see you are friend zoned. 3
Author giganto Posted February 22, 2017 Author Posted February 22, 2017 Okay.. Forget about her. Sometimes i feel like that she just likes my attention but will not move forward. I don't like this bailout, maybe or don't know answer. She would said yes if she's interested. I will not read about her action too much. Move on.
preraph Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 Remain polite and friendly to her in case one day she no longer has a boyfriend. 2
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