apple Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 I broke up with him and changed all my phone numbers etc. He has made contact with me through a note, which in turn tells me how much he loves me still and on the other hand blames me for everything. He is an alcoholic/abuser and is in deep denial. Denial carries on the addiction and also makes it easier for him to let go of any responsibility of what he has done to me. I am in a position of: do I reply to this note or do I totally ignore it. What is the best thing to do in this circumstance? I will not be listened to because of his denial, yet I would love to just catch up with him. Very mixed feelings here. If I ignore the note then he will suffer rejection etc. thats not a bad thing though is it? If I answer there is a chance of reconciliation (also danger), I would get to say what I would like to say my note. But would that benefit him? I have tried to break off all contact with this guy and he still doesn't get it. What to do? The note sort of put the spanner in the works because of my feelings etc. What would you do?
Naive Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 If I were you I probably would not respond, but it really comes down to how you feel. You should write down all its cons and pros and go based upon that.
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