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didn't feel the spark? we moved too quickly?


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i'm stumped.

 

I've been seeing this Male for almost 3 months now from social media and things kicked off great. We would see each other on every week on Friday and Sundays 6-7 hours a day. We both confronted each other that we like each other and enjoy each other company. He was throwing mixed signals, i have to say he was to kiss me, held my hand and flirted...As of last week 2 days before valentine day, i woke up with a heart broken text saying "i don't think it will work out". his excuse was that he felt we were in two different place (what does this even mean?). He also mentioned "i just didn't felt that spark"...did he lose intrest because the chase was gone? did we move too quickly?

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Damn. That's a crappy text to wake up to. I'm sorry. Hope you kind of saw it coming with the "mixed messages", at least. No spark and moving too fast means they're not interested enough.

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I think you had a hint from the get-go with the mixed messages thing...he wasn't sure, but he gave things a shot anyway.

 

I don't think it was anything you did, I think he just wasn't really all-in from the beginning.

 

So sorry. :(

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After 3 months, you were at least due a phone call if he wanted to end things. I wouldn't blame yourself as you only saw each other twice a week throughout the time together, so I don't think you were moving too fast.

 

It sounds like he was on a different page to you. I always find that the real person is revealed after dating for 3 months, so in some ways its good that he's no longer wasting your time. I hope you can move forward soon.

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i'm stumped.

I've been seeing this Male for almost 3 months now from social media and things kicked off great. We would see each other on every week on Friday and Sundays 6-7 hours a day.

Why always Friday and Sunday 6-7 hours? Are you sure those were dates? Were you alone or just hanging out with friends? In 3 months he never went out with you on a Saturday evening? I am not sure you were 'dating'.

 

 

We both confronted each other that we like each other and enjoy each other company. He was throwing mixed signals, i have to say he was to kiss me, held my hand and flirted....
So at what point in those 3 months you told him you liked him? When did he start giving you mixed signals?

 

As of last week 2 days before valentine day, i woke up with a heart broken text saying "i don't think it will work out". his excuse was that he felt we were in two different place (what does this even mean?). He also mentioned "i just didn't felt that spark"...did he lose intrest because the chase was gone? did we move too quickly?

What happen in that week before he texted you? did you sleep together?

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This has nothing to do with what you did.If you browse through threads about "multi-dating", there are plenty who say if there is no talk of exclusivity then you are not obligated to be committed to that person and can date or seek other options. More than likely he was keeping his options open. He just gave you the " it's not you it's me " excuse to cover his ass. I think he just had his eye on another prize.

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