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I have listened to church sermons that explain to put Faith first, Family 2nd then Friends 3rd. I never felt close to my parents and siblings and seeked out friends who I could share life with and feel connected to. I currently have a Christian boyfriend and he's my priority after God. We share he same beliefs and attend the same Church. If we happen to get married, he will be my new family which our relationship with God will be the main priority in our life. Then the friends we share are my 3rd priority and the family I grew up is last priority

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I never heard that. I was taught work before play and neither before God.

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I don't go by those rules. I have found friends to be more rewarding overall.

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I have listened to church sermons that explain to put Faith first, Family 2nd then Friends 3rd. I never felt close to my parents and siblings and seeked out friends who I could share life with and feel connected to. I currently have a Christian boyfriend and he's my priority after God. We share he same beliefs and attend the same Church. If we happen to get married, he will be my new family which our relationship with God will be the main priority in our life. Then the friends we share are my 3rd priority and the family I grew up is last priority

 

Well, is there a question you would like to ask total strangers regarding your faith?

 

First, of the three entities you mentioned, people's idea of God is the most subjective and uncertain. So, I guess it depends on the 'god' flavor you choose to believe in and that, I wager, will not affect you more than the people around you. It's always easy to abandon people so that you can abdicate from any responsibility, real responsibility and consequences. Believing or defying a deity rarely leads to anything consequential and so people find it easier to have faith in something that doesn't readily require any immediate responsibility.

 

Every church tells you to give your life to 'god' first. Easy to do...w/o immediate ramifications for better or worse. The best, strongest Christians I have ever known are those who do their best to love and support even those who inconvenience them regardless of what the institutional church tells them to do. In the end, if your relationship with God is more driven by what your church tells you to do than what God tells you to do...well, you're no better off than the heathen. How's that?

 

Best bet...pray to God and lead your life by his influence. If you don't get an answer and you find yourself going back to human beings for answers, well, good luck with the faith thing.

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I have listened to church sermons that explain to put Faith first, Family 2nd then Friends 3rd. I never felt close to my parents and siblings and seeked out friends who I could share life with and feel connected to. I currently have a Christian boyfriend and he's my priority after God. We share he same beliefs and attend the same Church. If we happen to get married, he will be my new family which our relationship with God will be the main priority in our life. Then the friends we share are my 3rd priority and the family I grew up is last priority

 

I am not going to debate your faith but if God says family comes 2nd shouldn't you working on fixing the space between you and them? It's like you want to follow god but make your own rules. So no, the rule is family second so work on it.

 

God didn't give us rules to follow but if it's too difficult you can just make your own rules along the way, that's not faith.

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For me it's family first, friends second, and don't have time for religion; third.

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