victoria88 Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 Hello, I have a question concerning the very first relationship (of a girl who has never been with a man before). What to expect and what to avoid? I am quite romantic so I definitely want to be with someone who loves me (and someone I love too). I wonder however what to expect from a first relationship and what to avoid. Thank you!
mikeylo Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 On the first date and second and many more, keep love on the side. Get to know her and let her know you.
d0nnivain Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 Being romantic is going to complicate things because real life does not work like movies & romance novel. Your guy will not make grand gestures & sweep you off your feet. Think about it -- the romance novels end with the kiss as the happy couple fades off into the sunset. Real life is harder & messier. I caution you to keep your romantic notions & ideals in check lest you get your heart broken. A relationship can actually be a be suffocating until you both get more used to functioning as a unit. In the beginning -- the honeymoon stage -- you want to spend all your time together. This leaves precious little time for routine life things like getting your laundry done, going food shopping etc. It's also too early to do those things together. You'd rather laze in bed with your beloved then do your chores. You have to find a balance. There are good points . . . .all the firsts: first kiss, first trip, first time (again divest yourself of all the romantic notions; first time sex is usually awkward not mind-blowing because you need time to learn your partner). By the time you get to the second year & can talk about remember last year when we did . . . For example the other night my husband & I went to Irish Comedy & we realized that 5 years earlier to the night we were in Ireland. It was a fun shared memory. I like those the best. There are all the new memories you make together too. That is a lot of fun. . . discovering or creating shared interests. Do have fun. I hope your romance is all you want it to be. 1
smackie9 Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 So you are the girl who has never been with a man?
smackie9 Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 My advice, don't expect a man to behave like what you see in movies or what you fantasize about. You don't want to get ahead of yourself either. If you do, it will put everything out of balance and things will go south....he will push back. I agree with other posters, take your time to get to know them, put the invested feelings aside. Secondly, if they start immediately love bombing you, telling you they have never met anyone like you, you are amazing, I want to marry you, etc, it's bull crap move to get you in the sac, to give you a false impression that their intentions are good. 2
spiderowl Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 If you like him, be positive and encouraging, but take your time to get to know him. If he is young, he probably won't know what to do either, but will be drawn to you physically. It is up to you to manage this so that you are comfortable with the pace. If he has met you, he might need time to process the meeting and get back to you. Best to be relaxed about it but don't disrespect yourself by sitting about waiting to hear from him. If a guy is not in touch with you at least once a day, he is probably not that interested.
Author victoria88 Posted March 11, 2017 Author Posted March 11, 2017 (edited) Thank you for the comments. I did not dare to ask him if he wants to have a relationship with me. I am afraid of having a negative answer. Well, I will try to be braver. If only I could know if he likes me (at least). The perfect situation would be if he is in love with me too... p.s. I am a bit stressed because I hardly know him (I do believe he is a very cool guy) and also because I have no experience in the private life. Wish me luck! Edited March 11, 2017 by victoria88
d0nnivain Posted March 11, 2017 Posted March 11, 2017 Good luck. Just remember slow is a good pace & don't do anything you are not comfortable with.
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