froggiekisses Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 well ok.. my husband left on monday 5 days now... he was seeing some one else. and this issues or coping isnt for me.. i'm actuallt coping pretty well if i do say so myself . the issues is our son... i had hoped he wouldnt be affected by this because he's only 8 months old.. but i think he is.. i think he knows his daddy's gone.. and that he wont be coming back... his daddy came to see him on monday when he got his stuff.. and hasnt called or seen him since. my son has always been very independant.. would play by himslef in the floor for hours.. but now he's gotten VERY clingy... even to the point of holding so tight to my leg when i'm walking through the kitchen that i cant move without dragging him along.. he isnt dealing very well.. and its very hard for me to see him like this.. i cant leave him alone even when we are in the same room together he has to be in my lap or have all of my attention.. i've been trying not to give in too much because i want him to be an independant child.. but it hurts me so much that he feels so lost that his daddys not around and hes afraid i'll leave too. what do you think?
agnf666 Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 I think you should make sure that your husband remains a part of his life no matter what. I does seem like he's afraid that you are going to leave him too. I think in a few weeks this will go away. It's amazing how the child actually knows that the father is missing. Just make sure that the husband does spend time with him. You need some of "your" time as well.
Author froggiekisses Posted July 24, 2005 Author Posted July 24, 2005 well i wish i could.. my husband has made no effort to come and see him no matter how many times i've called and asked him to. i finally decided yesterday that i'm not calling him anymore. if he wants to be a part of his childs life he will.. i cant force him. and i'm not gonna drive myself crazy trying.
agnf666 Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 First of let me say your baby is a cutie! I wouldn't force your husband to spend time with your child. If he doesn't want to that is his loss. If this is going to be a permanent thing. Take his ass to court and get child support. I think he will come around soon. I would just go with the flow of things right now. Don't call him anymore, just see what happens.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 Originally posted by agnf666 First of let me say your baby is a cutie! I wouldn't force your husband to spend time with your child. If he doesn't want to that is his loss. If this is going to be a permanent thing. Take his ass to court and get child support. I think he will come around soon. I would just go with the flow of things right now. Don't call him anymore, just see what happens. Great Advice, I agree.. I think he will come around.. It might take a few months though as he is so busy getting busy that the child has taken a second priority. Good luck
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