karly85 Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 (edited) How do you recognise just being " a hook up" whilst you are dating someone? I'm going to hopefully re start dating in the next few months after being dumped by my "boyfriend" who was really casually seeing me. I was so unaware of any red flags or the signs that he was not committed or even in a relationship (even though he made me think we were ) What should I look out for when I do re start dating to stop this happening again? Edited February 18, 2017 by karly85
BaileyB Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 (edited) Wait to have sex with a man until you know that he wants you, not just sex. Pay attention to what they do and say... If they are talking about sex, they want sex. If they are making sexual jokes and/or using a lot of sexual innuendo, they want sex. If they want to hang out at home and/or don't talk to you regularly or take you out on dates, they want sex. And, if they are all over you physically, they just want sex. Call me old fashioned, but the best thing you can do is actually date... wait to have sex and take the time to get to know someone before things get physical. Edited February 18, 2017 by BaileyB 1
GoldSparkz Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 In my experience, as soon as the guy starts talking or joking about sex even before we're exclusive, it's obvious we're on a different page and all he wants is sex.
BaileyB Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 And, if I may... If he starts talking sex before we even meet, I won't even meet him for coffee. 1
Shanex Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 To each his own, but as a counterweight to the more traditional or conservative crowd here, most of my LTR started after we had sex soon enough. Mind you, I wasn't the one pushing for it. I am well aware that many guys only want hookups and dispose of the lady asap, but some of us enjoy the quick sex, and having a skilled lady have a hold on us for longer. I don't know many guys nowadays who will accept of being turned into eunuch for longer than months to win over a woman and be considered as relationship or marriage material in the process.
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