She dumped me for an ex, here's how I handled it (your thoughts?).

[GP27]

I hadn't been seeing this girl for long, just about two months (we are both in our mid-30s). But I had begun to really like her in the last month. I also started to believe how much she really liked me because she kept texting all the time and when we were together and just literally kept telling me "I'm so lucky to have met someone like you" and "I can't believe how lucky I am" etc.

 

So things were going great, then on Wednesday, completely out of the blue, I get a text from her. It's about two paragraphs long. She said at a work event she reconnected with an old friend and they have a lot of history and they decided to take it to the next level. She hopes I can forgive her and wishes me the best because I'm a great guy.

 

So BAM! Dropped out of the blue. But literally two days before that she was "the luckiest girl in the world" to have met me. This is how I replied:

 

1st text: "Are you joking?"

 

She replied back that she was sorry and she wasn't.

 

2nd text: "I'm shocked." (and I literally was. I felt stunned.)

 

She didn't reply to that and then I deleted the text thread. I haven't replied since.

 

I wasn't in love with her yet, but I was really starting to think I could have a serious future with her. My question is, did I do the right thing in the way I replied? Should I have said more? Should I have tried to get more answers? It's only been a week, but I do miss the person I thought she was. Just a bit bummed and wondering how what others on here think I should have handled it.

[goldway90]

No you've already said too much, next time something like this happens the best way to reply is to Never reply at all. Don't look for answers just move on.

[enddeck]

You miss the person you THOUGHT she was,she was never that person.She has shown you who she is,someone that professes love today and screws someone else tomorrow.She is a flake and you are lucky you hadn't developed feelings any stronger than you did for her.She probably has a history that would frighten you if she can switch her affections so easily.

When someone shows you who they really are,believe them.

[SevenCity]

You miss the person you THOUGHT she was,she was never that person.She has shown you who she is,someone that professes love today and screws someone else tomorrow.She is a flake and you are lucky you hadn't developed feelings any stronger than you did for her.She probably has a history that would frighten you if she can switch her affections so easily.

When someone shows you who they really are,believe them.

 

Yea you got off easy. She could have done this months or years into the RL.

 

Be thankful you dodged the bullet. Delete her number and never respond to her if she reaches out sgain.

[Crystal1111]

That's happened to me before. I wasn't in love with him but thought I could be someday. I really liked him though.

 

IT HURTS!

Sorry you're going through this.

[Marc878]

Consider yourself lucky. Under the circumstances you did ok.

 

Going forward block her on everything. Never respond or acknowledge her in any way.

 

If you're smart you'll be glad she's someone else's problem now.

[darkmoon]

you handled it pefectly, and I really mean that

[Sweetfish]

you handled it pefectly, and I really mean that

 

 

You handled it better than most guys

[jamili]

You're reaction was pretty much perfect. TBH you probably blew her mind with how insanely well you handled this.

 

But after only 2 months, I wouldn't expect to ever hear from her again, regardless of how you reacted. It sounds like you guys just had a little fling her mind.

 

Also, the "I'm so lucky to have met someone like you" blah blah that's all a bunch of crap, women say that all the time. It means nothing. You have to go by her actions i.e. dumping you, which means what she really means is "I'm not that lucky to have someone like you, in fact, I don't really give much of a @#$%".

[lolablue17]

I don't know about guys, but during my long life experience, I sometime felt stunned by women who could fake attitude and emotions, so good for so long. I've known women who were able to fake for years and years...

 

It's not a regular fake, it's more like auto-suggestion. They can force and train themselves to feel something, which they don't feel naturally. UUGGGHHHH...

 

Man, I feel sorry for you. You should take it as if you were injured by a terror attack. Bad luck to meet and open up to a monster.

[spiderowl]

So sorry this happened. You handled it great, letting her know you were shocked at her behaviour. Sounds like she was attached to someone, for some reason it broke off and she tried to move on, but hadn't really. Very sorry you were the unwitting casualty of this.

 

I thought your response was as good as it gets. You sound a great guy and I'm sure will meet someone who recognises that soon. x

[Been]

You did good. Handle it the best you could.

I always find it funny how people can say all these great things about someone and then at a drop of a dime switch.

[SoThatHappened]

You did fine.

 

Stop worrying about how you handled it right now, literally, right now.

 

Then, make sure you NEVER get in contact with this girl again.

 

I fell for the same thing over 3 years ago. Same exact type of texts and over-the-top affection. Then, bam, got the "There's someone else" text within HOURS of her telling me how lucky she is.

 

Like an idiot, I went back to her after another 2 months just to have the same thing happen again 7 months later.

 

Don't be me... don't be an idiot. Just chalk it up as a life lesson and move on.

[Ultrashiver]

I'm glad this happened early on and not 5 years down the road. This was never meant to be and you did fine. I hope you find what you're looking for.