SaveYourHeart Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 My husband is an alcoholic and if I could go back and do it all over again, I wouldn't have gone on a single date with him. It has destroyed my life. It is a terrible disease and you will lose yourself in it if you stay. Run girl run. 2
preraph Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 You said he has "almost stopped entirely." That means he's still drinking. Are you planning on having children if you stay together? If the answer is no, then the only thing you need to consider is if you would be happier together or apart. If you are wanting to have children, now you have to worry about unreliability, mood swings, anger and possible abuse, and him drinking again and becoming a huge problem. He will be the role model for your son and daughter. Do you want your son growing up thinking it's okay to be disrespectful and surly to his woman? Do you want your daughter to grow up trying to find someone just like him to marry? There is no quick cure for this. It IS something an addict will struggle with from now on. My best friend is sober nearly 30 years. She still goes to AA meetings and has times of weakness. When he has any health problems and needs to take prescription meds, he will likely become dependent on them and abuse them, and then you'l have an even bigger problem. If he gets in a car wreck and needs pain meds or ends up with chronic pain sometimes, he will need pain meds on a regular basis, and his old behavior will be back. If you have a teenager or a toddler when this happens, you will have your hands full and the child will be modeling off of this. So do whatever you want, but don't bring kids into it if he's that moody and not all the dedicated to remaining sober. People who want to remain sober don't gripe about it outside of meetings. They take pride in it. 1
kendahke Posted February 22, 2017 Posted February 22, 2017 (edited) Well in all fairness, he didn't actually say these words. I used this title as a paraphrase for him thinking you should stick around regardless if you truly love a person. then what were the exact words that he used? Question is: do you want to live 15 years with someone who considers his problems like this guy does? By that, I mean he doesn't address his addiction constructively by getting professional help, since it's clear he's not going to vanquish them on his own--else he'd have done that by now. The last vestige of a cur is to make his own happiness more important than you own peace of mind--and no one can determine your peace of mind but you. Edited February 22, 2017 by kendahke
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