SorrowfulHuman Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 I know you will tell me it's pointless to worry about it, but I can't help but wonder if they know the sorry state I am still in despite it being months since the breakup. I don't want them to know I'm hurting and alone but I can't shake the feeling that they somehow know. I went NC immediately and there has been no direct communication either way since, and I haven't let on to any mutual friends what a hard time I'm having so my ex couldn't have heard it through them, but I'm paranoid they somehow know what I'm up to. No social media presence either. The worst that I've done is made some unrelated drunk texts to some people with 4 or 5 degrees of separation, but I can't imagine that would get back to my ex. Am I just being crazy? Please tell me so. 1
academicmoss Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 You're not being crazy. I've had those same thoughts. In all honesty, after a breakup we typically tend to think that our ex is out having the time of their life, dating and having sex with other people. We don't usually think they're miserable which is why a breakup is so hard sometimes. We seem to think they're moving on just fine and that they never really cared. I would say your ex is thinking the same thing about you. 1
basil67 Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 What they are imagining would be related to your attitude to life during the relationship. If you were resilient and able to shake off bad things in life, she will probably assume you're doing great. But if you tended towards pessimism and depression, she will probably assume you're doing poorly. 2
LitTunnel Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 I'm in the same dam state. Haven't spoke to her in months and yet I'm still devastated and wonder what the hell she's up too and whether or not she even still thinks about me remotely. Just sucks to be in this stuck position right now, like honestly. It's no way to live.
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