Woggle Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 Let her go to her ex and she can then be his problem. 2
Author indyboy362 Posted February 18, 2017 Author Posted February 18, 2017 Pretty sure ex is out the picture. He lives out of state and has another GF(he cheated on my current gf with his current gf while they were dating)
goldway90 Posted February 18, 2017 Posted February 18, 2017 Do you guys suggest I still be friends with her? I still care about her a lot and her well being. There's a lot of things I know about her that nobody else does. I'd like to check in on her once in a while. Or I'm thinking go no contact for a long time until I'm healed and then reach out? Not sure. Big NO to what written in bold.You cut her out of your life, you don't need toxic people. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 Do you guys suggest I still be friends with her? I still care about her a lot and her well being. There's a lot of things I know about her that nobody else does. I'd like to check in on her once in a while. Or I'm thinking go no contact for a long time until I'm healed and then reach out? Not sure. Good lord, no. She doesn't respect you enough to deserve that place in your life, OP. Do you allow your other friends to manipulate you the way she does? I doubt it. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 Pretty sure ex is out the picture. He lives out of state and has another GF(he cheated on my current gf with his current gf while they were dating) That doesn't mean much. If he's the cheating type, he'd have no problem flirting with your girlfriend behind his current's back. It doesn't really matter if he lives out of state, either. They can still be in regular communication and I would bet any money they are. Either way, you need to get rid of this girl. She's bad news. 1
joseb Posted February 19, 2017 Posted February 19, 2017 I think I'll be breaking up with her today or tomorrow. It really sucks in my mind, I've never loved anyone more than her, but what she did was not freaking okay. I have to draw the line somewhere instead of just taking her side all the time. Good. Wait till her exams are over. Then delete her from your life. Sounds like this incident has been your wake up call. And no, you don't stay friends. I know this seems like an easier transition when faced with breaking up but it's almost never a good idea. And definitely not with someone who behaves like her.
lolablue17 Posted February 20, 2017 Posted February 20, 2017 (edited) I have a different opinion about it. 1. Before you break up, I would talk to her. Tell her exactly what you tell us here. Tell her how her behavior makes you feel. Tell her that you stiil have feelings for her but it just can't go on like it was until now. You should also listen to what she has to say. She may offer to try to change and to make things better. If she isn't, than you break up with her amicably. 2. If you feel you can be friends with her, and you feel you can see her with other guys without being jealous, why not staying her friend? If you feel too much and will be hurt to see her with other guys, then of course go full NC. Edited February 20, 2017 by lolablue17
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