Cookiesandough Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 My ex has been single for a year. We are FB friends and he has not changed his pic of us, but we're not on really on talking terms or will ever be. Since we aren't talking, I'm sure he's probably seeing other girls but for the strangest reason, I really want him to get a GF. There are a couple reasons. First, I feel like it will be the only way I can officially be DONE. It will make him moving on more real so I can accept what's already. secondly, I want to see this girl he gets. Anyone can relate? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 Yes I can totally relate. Once he's someone else's problem he's no longer yours. It's awesome. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cookiesandough Posted February 17, 2017 Author Share Posted February 17, 2017 Exactly!!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 I wouldn't say I WANTED it. In fact, it was quite devastating at the time because of how relatively quickly it happened given the genuinely serious nature of our relationship. However, time has let me see that it was for the best, as I was also stuck in limbo between the time I left and the time she got into the new relationship. I was not opposed to reconciliation despite knowing it was probably best not to venture down that road. Her quickly linking up with someone else forced me to follow a path that I hadn't committed to travel down to that point. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Orlan Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 I have never wanted my ex's to find someone else, I haven't cared either way. When we're done, we're done. There is no need to stalk their social media and see if he'll find someone more or less attractive than yourself. By doing that, you are not letting yourself move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
havesomethingtosay Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 You do not sound like you have good character. You do not sound like a good catch. I am a 34 year old women telling you that you sound like anyone your ex choses, although you feel you are better then, are actually better then you. I don't know what you look like but your attitude is not one. Maybe you hurt you ex, in which case your ex wasn't grown, experienced or wise enough to see that but you were with him and are doing this to him, so in all honesty, you are the one with the problem. Link to post Share on other sites
havesomethingtosay Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 Exactly!!!! You want him to block you, yet you will not block him. You are the one with incredible issues. I hope loveshack can actually view this and realize this when commenting on their posts. I wouldn't give you the time of day after this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 My ex has been single for a year. We are FB friends and he has not changed his pic of us, but we're not on really on talking terms or will ever be. Since we aren't talking, I'm sure he's probably seeing other girls but for the strangest reason, I really want him to get a GF. There are a couple reasons. First, I feel like it will be the only way I can officially be DONE. It will make him moving on more real so I can accept what's already. secondly, I want to see this girl he gets. Anyone can relate? No. You're already officially done, what he does with his life doesn't matter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cookiesandough Posted February 17, 2017 Author Share Posted February 17, 2017 You do not sound like you have good character. You do not sound like a good catch. I am a 34 year old women telling you that you sound like anyone your ex choses, although you feel you are better then, are actually better then you. I don't know what you look like but your attitude is not one. Maybe you hurt you ex, in which case your ex wasn't grown, experienced or wise enough to see that but you were with him and are doing this to him, so in all honesty, you are the one with the problem. This seems a little untoward. I don't know what made you feel making an account to insult me was warranted, but I hope you're okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 My ex husband and the father of my kids has remained single since our divorce almost a decade ago. It's not the same scenario that you presented OP, but well yes....I'd like to see him happy with someone. I've been married, widowed and am now in an LTR for about two years....so it's not about myself moving on. I think he'd enjoy finding compatibility, love and getting laid on the regular so as long as she's a cool woman (because of the kids) yes, I would be happy to see him with someone. For real though, not on facebook. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 I definitely think it helped me move on when my ex got married. It was that final nail in the coffin. Sometimes, no matter how much you have moved on, you have that niggling feeling in the back of your head saying "what if?" But I never wanted him to move on with someone else because I felt like it would reflect badly on me. Like, it would devalue what we had I guess. I think you need to stop being FB friends with him, so you won't be so concerned with it anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
goldway90 Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 Some people cope differently i guess, for me i couldn't care less about my ex is doing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted February 17, 2017 Share Posted February 17, 2017 Exactly!!!! Or maybe deep down in side you want him to see how great you are by getting into another relationship lol 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cookiesandough Posted February 21, 2017 Author Share Posted February 21, 2017 (edited) Anddddd he has a new girl Hahaha. Not seen yet. Now that it's real I don't know how I feel. It was better in theory. =/ But I guess I'm happy for him. Edited February 21, 2017 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
Lizrd3000 Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 wow edit my bad i cant ****ing read, I am sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
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