CRISS23 Posted July 23, 2005 Posted July 23, 2005 hi everyone, me and my girl just recently seperated after 6 years. I was the blame because i let my stress and and inscurities effect our relationship to the point where i was distant and she didn't feel appreciated. she thinks i t would be best for now that we just focus on ourselves than each other and if it's meant to be, we"ll be back together. we also have a 4yr -old and she took it really hard. she's our top priority right now and i will not lose focus of that. but i want my ex back so bad, it was her decision to seperate but when i came and got my things, she started to cry. i don't know if that is a sign of " i still love you and want you, but not right now". i really wanna get back with her, she was my 1st love and i was her 1st love and 1st sexual partner. and she's dealing with it better than me. she didn't really shut the door on us but she says she needs to be happy. can someone give me some advice on how to possibly covince her that let's try again, and how to have no contact when you have a child , because i need my kid and i want to be a family someday. and should i put a time frame on when to try to get her back? please help
mustangsally Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 well, if the relationship was serious no matter who ended it usually both parties are pretty emotional and upset for a while. So i can't tell you what it means, but I wish i could! If I were a mind reader it would help a lot of people out. At any rate, you can't do no contact with a child. So just focus on her but give your ex some space at the same time.
Lonestar Posted July 24, 2005 Posted July 24, 2005 Sounds to me like you don't want to have no contact. You want her back. No contact should only be used in order to get over someone and move on, not to get them back. I'm confused as to what you're trying to do, but to answer your question, it is possible to have no contact with someone you have a child with. You don't have contact in the sense of anything personal. Contact should be as limited as possible and only business related. Do not call her if your child sneezed and you can't figure out which medicine to use. Do call her if you also feel the need to call 911. Drop offs and pick ups can be done at daycare (if your kid goes there). Do not speak with her or see her unless you absolutely have to because of your child. It's tough when you're not over someone and you still have to see them because of kids.
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