Tlb765 Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 Hello ... Really just writing here because I feel completely broken. I have posted before about the relationship my ex and I have had for the past year and it was more than amazing. Until her mom passed in s car accident. I loved her to the moon and back even after everything. Well... So we broke up and went NC for a while ... blocked each other in social media etc. someone had slipped it out that she was in Columbia with her ex and it broke my heart. Even though we were in no contact at the time I thought we would still love each other and move on and not get into a relationship wit an ex at that . It's been like two months and I still can't even look another girl In the eyes let alone my ex. So after I found out about the whole Columbia trip I really just was sad so so sad and then I kinda mellowed out and just accepted it. I thought to myself that she still loves me but she's trying to move on in the most unhealthy way possible. That maybe she still thinks of me and our puppy and it sucks to be him to have to be with someone who is still in love with someone else. That might sound a little crazy but it just helped me get through everyday. Well she leaves for Italy in 4days and she had texted me a couple days ago to see our dog we had together that I took with me when I moved out. I didn't reply cause I had no idea what to say. I still love her but I didn't know if I could handle seeing her, especially after her trip with her ex to Columbia. Tonight I gave in and texted back and I asked her if what we had meant anything and if she loved him (her ex) . She replied "I love Emmy (our puppy), I love him & I also love you. " after this text my heart crashed. Which is where I'm at now. I know I did it to myself but I thought it would bring me piece of mind. I told her I wish her the best and I don't think she will be seeing emmy before she moves. And that I didn't understand how you could love two people. It is 2 am for me and she sent me this text during my sleep so now I can't even sleep. Anyways I'm just writing in here cause I don't really have anyone to talk to and I'm just distraught. Just want a piece of mind or some kind of guidance Thank you
LitTunnel Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 Look, at least you guys are on speaking terms. My situation is the complete opposite. My ex and I will most likely NEVER speak again. That's devastating. My best advice is to let her go, set her free and go NC completely. At this point you can't do anything to bring her back. Only she can decided that. Until then, go NC, live your life and try to be happy. I know it's easier said than done. Trust me, I know. But the quicker you set her completely free the better and faster chance at her coming back. Just don't get your hopes up but it's a possibility. But this will only happen if you show her you're man enough to live your life without her. She'll pick up on this and will start really missing you. Then, bam! She's back in your life. Now, you pick and choose if you want to allow it. Peace:)
Marc878 Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 She was just being polite. If there was anything left or she would have contacted you first. You need to move on now. Go black and block everything. There's nothing there but more of what you've just gotten. False hope will keep you in limbo longer.
Cornelius_Smiff Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 I have to echo the sentiments here. I am 3 months into my own NC/Breakup and the thought of never talking to her again used to cripple me, but it's getting so much easier now and the reason was NC. Now I am hoping she never tries to contact, at least not of a very long time. Contact with the EX does nothing for your healing and certainly won't change what's happened. It will only prolong the pain and ensure the wounds stay open. As much as it hurts, it is for the best. Trust me.
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 Hopefully this will be the catalyst you need to move forward & get over her. It's OK to grieve the loss of your relationship. It's cleansing & part of the healing process. Hugs. Spend some time with your dog. Unconditional love is just what you need now.
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