Should I move on or not?

[Shadeslayer]

I broke up with my ex a few months ago. he was my first crush. He is my neighbour and I know him since I was young but after we moved in to other place we lost contact and never been in touch. But in the past few years we started being friends. Last year I came back to my native place. We started seeing each other more often and then he proposed me. But, it started as just as a short term relationship and we both agreed to be with each other till we both get married. I don't think he understands how much I love him and I thought maybe if everything goes well we could take it to another level.And I never told him about this. Sometimes I think he just want sex. and when I shared what I felt he became angry and said that he loves me and he expresses it more in this way. But we never had sex, Sometimes we just sleep with each other. And on one such day after he went back home, he said we should stop it as he is scared about anyone finding us like this can cause more trouble to him. And that he wont be able to take it anymore. I couldn't take it. I told my cousin about this (she is also his friend). They both talked and I asked her to show that chat but she didn't. She showed me finally after I promised her that I wont start a relation with him again. He told her, "I still love her, but let her think that I cheated on her. And don't tell this to her". After this I talked with him through whatsapp but he always talks in a rude way. And he wont even reply to my messages. And one day we fought (when I started being friends with his cousin) he told me that he had thought of asking me out again after I get admission in some college. If this continues neither he or she can study properly. And then he asked me to give him space ... I got really hurt. And then I never messaged him. But we see each other sometimes as we are neighbours. And day before yesterday I had to. He stared at me for some time but I went inside my house. Now he had posted his status as "in an untold relationship". I just dont know what to do. I feel all of these just mattered to me. He doesnt have any emotion or feeling. The worst part is seeing him again and again. He doesnt care. Should I just completely forget what happened and move on? Or should I just wait for someone else ..? How will I cope with this situation?

Edited February 17, 2017 by Shadeslayer

[Shadeslayer]

I broke up with my ex a few months ago. he was my first crush. He is my neighbour and I know him since I was young but after we moved in to other place we lost contact and never been in touch. But in the past few years we started being friends. Last year I came back to my native place. We started seeing each other more often and then he proposed me. But, it started as just as a short term relationship and we both agreed to be with each other till we both get married. I don't think he understands how much I love him and I thought maybe if everything goes well we could take it to another level.And I never told him about this. Sometimes I think he just want sex. and when I shared what I felt he became angry and said that he loves me and he expresses it more in this way. But we never had sex, Sometimes we just sleep with each other. And on one such day after he went back home, he said we should stop it as he is scared about anyone finding us like this can cause more trouble to him. And that he wont be able to take it anymore. I couldn't take it. I told my cousin about this (she is also his friend). They both talked and I asked her to show that chat but she didn't. She showed me finally after I promised her that I wont start a relation with him again. He told her, "I still love her, but let her think that I cheated on her. And don't tell this to her". After this I talked with him through whatsapp but he always talks in a rude way. And he wont even reply to my messages. And one day we fought (when I started being friends with his cousin) he told me that he had thought of asking me out again after I get admission in some college. If this continues neither he or she can study properly. And then he asked me to give him space ... I got really hurt. And then I never messaged him. But we see each other sometimes as we are neighbours. And day before yesterday I had to. He stared at me for some time but I went inside my house. Now he had posted his status as "in an untold relationship". I am trying hard to forget everything but seeing him again and again just don't help me. Now I think all of these mattered just to me. He never cared. He doesn't have any "feeling of sadness". I just don't know what to do. Why is he being like this?Or If he comes back, should I give a chance to getting hurt again? Or should I just wait for someone else? ..?

Edited February 17, 2017 by Shadeslayer

[d0nnivain]

You sound young That is good because as you live life you get more perspective & things aren't quite as acute.

 

 

Stop talking to third parties about your relationship. Go-betweens screw things up more than they help.

 

 

If you want to get back together you have to talk to him in person, not on whatsapp; not through text, live & face to face. Since you are neighbors it shouldn't be that hard to corner him.

 

 

If he's rude or dismissive, that is your answer. He's not interested.

 

 

In the meantime, throw yourself into your college applications. Once you get on campus, a whole new world will open up to you & you will forget all about your crush.

[Shadeslayer]

Even though we are neighbours.. our families are not in good terms. So I cannot talk to him.. unless some ocassion comes up. And Thank u so much. Even I thought.. that things may change When I get more exposed to the world.