chados Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 (edited) So my girlfriend has a mentality that everything she does good or bad is justified by me not being as sweet to her as I used to be. I can never really feel appreciated by her without feeling that I have to give something back. She never tells me I'm good at anything because it seems to draw the attention away from her. She complains about me being stupid for forgetting something that to the average person is nothing important. She gets angry and walks away from me as soon as I defend myself. I can't be the guy she wants me to be when she makes me look stupid in front of her friends, she gets angry about the most silly things. She is studying accountancy and I made her dinner, she tells me to put the plate on the other side and i thought she wasn't done studying. I get a text and I answer my friend while she goes HELLO?? Aren't we supposed to have Dinner, this after she said we can do something special tomorrow instead due to her studying. I explain I was waiting for her to start eating. She puts the plate away and refuses to eat saying i ruined the Valentine's because I didn't appologize. Everything she does she claims to be a reason of me not being sweet to her. I can't be sweet to someone who gets so upset for me being a human an making human mistakes. And I have never had anyone calling me a mean person. I feel anger towards her and at the same time I feel pain seeing her sad and it makes me unable to act accordingly to the situation. It feels like I'm talking to a girl and not a woman who always gets what she wants, someone who can never be questioned and always justifies her behaviour towards others. Anyone that's been in this situation? Edited February 16, 2017 by chados
goldway90 Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 RUN, this is an emotionally abusive relationship. 3
Author chados Posted February 16, 2017 Author Posted February 16, 2017 RUN, this is an emotionally abusive relationship. I've gotten myself so invested that's the problem
CptInsano Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 One thing about investments: There is no such thing as sunk costs. Leave while it is not too late. 2
smackie9 Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 I've gotten myself so invested that's the problem Uninvest yourself...problem solved. 1
goldway90 Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 I've gotten myself so invested that's the problem Yeah i know it's hard but you gotta remember the longer you stay, the worse it gets. So make the decision and get away from this girl. RUN RUN RUN never look back, you deserve better. 1
KBob Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 I've been in a similar situation but not nearly as drastic as yours, and mine was enough to walk away and never look back. Leave her before she messes you up. 2
morrowrd Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 You are feeling resentment for not being appreciated. And...you should, she is being a brat, very self centered and that makes for a very one sided relationship.
Author chados Posted February 16, 2017 Author Posted February 16, 2017 Shes manipulative. Right now she's saying you can stay but if you want to leave I'll help you. It's not gonna work but then she says it's up to me in some sneaky way, basically to test me
Author chados Posted February 17, 2017 Author Posted February 17, 2017 She's a sweetie a lot of the times and my family loves her. I really do seem like this girl that gets abused *he can be really nice * but it's true. I know Its hard to let go and what makes this even harder is that I really dont want her sad.. I hate thinking back remembering how much we cared about each other before and I almost wish she would just hate me. Whatever happens I guess this was at least a learning process like everything else in life and even if things get roughing it will always get better at some point. I knew what you all would say and I guess I asked because I wanted an outside opinion and maybe a reason to not feel as bad as I am.
d0nnivain Posted February 17, 2017 Posted February 17, 2017 passive + aggressive = bat $%^& cray cary Smackie9 makes me laugh out loud sometimes. Chardos The only reason you should feel bad is because you are allowing yourself to be treated so horribly. Seriously, because you exhibited basic table manners & waited for your GF to start eating on Valentine's Day, she put the plates away & pouted that you ruined the holiday? Are you kidding? I will agree the holiday was ruined but SHE ruined it, not you. RUN! as far & as fast as you can go.
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