sgwayne Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 Met a lady at work, we are both over 50 and both single. She knew I liked her and let me know right off the bat she just wanted to be friends, and would like a male to hang out with. I thought ok this will be fun. We hang out every day we have off together, text eachother every day, and call eachother often. But deep down she knows I still like her allot. I kissed her on the cheek when giving her a hug goodbye one day. She put a stop to that on the next hug. So here is my confusion. She invites me over to cook for me, then after we eat while relaxing, she tells me she cancelled going out to spend time with me. Three times she tells me she cancelled dates because she would rather be with me. Question: Why would she tell me this? There is no reason at all to make me jealous. She knows I like her. Is this a game to see how I react, or did she really cancel all these dates just for a friend.
Miss Spider Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 Sounds like she likes really likes hanging out with you as a friend, to the point that she sometimes prefers it to going out with others, and she wanted you to know that. It's supposed to be a compliment. It does not mean she's interested in anything more than friends. It appears that is all she wants to be.
Mrin Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 She loves you as a friend but doesn't want anything to do with you romantically. If this works for you - great. If this doesn't work for you she is an attention vampire and you should stop hanging out with her.
goldway90 Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 She knew I liked her and let me know right off the bat she just wanted to be friends Well you agreed to the friendzone deal even though you probably want more. If she cancels all her dates for you then escalates things when you two are alone that's the only way to know where you stand.
Author sgwayne Posted February 16, 2017 Author Posted February 16, 2017 It's funny you should mention attention vampire. She is very bad with money. To the point she is always broke. I helped her buy a car because her other one was getting repode. I pay for all dinners out. She jokingly calls me a bill now, because she is on a plan to pay me back monthly. She never once asked for money, I offered. Maybe idiotic on my part. But yes she can be emotionally draining sometimes due to all the crises in her life, which I see as just small things. Even almost threw a fit because I could not get her windshield wiper working on the car she just got. Later texted me and said she was sorry for acting that way. I know spending money on her like this is beyond friendship, just hoping to get my $1000.00 back
Miss Spider Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 It's funny you should mention attention vampire. She is very bad with money. To the point she is always broke. I helped her buy a car because her other one was getting repode. I pay for all dinners out. She jokingly calls me a bill now, because she is on a plan to pay me back monthly. She never once asked for money, I offered. Maybe idiotic on my part. But yes she can be emotionally draining sometimes due to all the crises in her life, which I see as just small things. Even almost threw a fit because I could not get her windshield wiper working on the car she just got. Later texted me and said she was sorry for acting that way. I know spending money on her like this is beyond friendship, just hoping to get my $1000.00 back Dood, she is stringing you along. She is feeding you these lines to keep you invested, keep up your hope. That way she can use you as a should to cry on or free ride. Nooo. Would you do so much if it was a friend you didn't have feelings for? If not, you can't be her friend 1
preraph Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 Good grief. No mystery here. She knew you had a crush on her and took advantage of that to play you for money. You may not think she asked for it, but that's not how the pros get men to pay them. They play the victim, have sob story after sob story to make a man feel sorry for them until their male protective instincts kick in to "save" her. This is how golddiggers operate, at least the ones who aren't straight up asking for cash for sex. She's giving you time and you're giving her money. Cut off the money and let's see how long it lasts. Stop paying for anything. 1
olivetree Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 You like her as more than a friend, so the only self-respectable thing to do would be to say thanks but no thanks to the friendship. No woman is going to want to sleep with you if you accept less than you want. It is now even worse that you have become her ATM. Move on from this user. 1
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