Potentially getting back together after a recent break up - need some advice

[arlington]

My boyfriend and I of 4 months just recently broke up a few days ago. He said that he was not feeling anything else other than friends. He had said the week before then that we spent a lot of time together and also mentioned that he felt smoothered at times. I had given him space and I had always let him initiate getting together to hang out and he always did. I pointed out the fact that he always initiated getting together and he said he felt that I needed to have the time together since I am an emotional person. I told him that its not the case.

 

Two days ago we got together and talked and I told him that for some reason I felt that I was going to lose him and I felt the need to be extra affectionate and I guess it came off as clingy. I said it was a mistake and that I realized that and I learned from it. He said that he understood my reasoning and that we can continue to talk. I realize that I need to be more indepandant and I am trying to give him his space.

 

Last night he asked if I wanted to catch a early movie before he had to go to the airport to pick up a friend of his that is coming in for the weekend so I went with him. We had a good time, but he was not "touchy feeling" or anything like that, which drove me crazy. After he dropped me off, I called him and I said that after our talk I wanted to see where we stood. He said that he wanted to do some thinking about him, I and our relationship. He said he could not give me an straight answer on whether or not we would get back together and that he just wanted to do some thinking. I said ok fine - it was on my mind and I wanted to know where we stood.

 

Later on when he was on his way to the airport he called me and asked if I saw how nice the moon looked, but iI honestly think he was calling to see if I was going to stay home or go out.

 

One friend recommeneded that I do not be so available and that I need to keep myself busy and assert by own independance. There is a party for some mutual friends tonight, but otherwise I think I need to back off from him.

 

Can anyone offer any advice on what I should do in this situation?

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by arlington

He said that he was not feeling anything else other than friends.

 

You need to believe what he is saying.. when a person says this they are not lying and they don't say this when they want to be with you..

 

Take him at his word .. Move on