Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Sex factor ickyness aside, a hotel room suggestion on his part screams stranger danger. That, or he's married. Thank goodness you decided to cancel. Good riddance. I know.. when he text me that I was like are you serious? He didn't even know if I could be a serial killer or something. He just right off the bat said hey lets share a room. He's either a big creep or he really has no idea what he's doing. He's 22.. so I think he's just sex crazed.
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Stop giving benefits of the doubt, that is how you end up being played, dumped and stood up. I've always been told I'm way to nice to people around me that I call "friends" or "boyfriends" and that I tolerate way too much. That ends this year though. 3
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 I've always been told I'm way to nice to people around me that I call "friends" or "boyfriends" and that I tolerate way too much. That ends this year though. Start it now by blocking this bozzo and block every other bozzo talking to you this way. Don't be afraid, you won't run out of men to date. 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Yeah, he cant play me. Plus he's not even that cute.... I'm just a really nice person and I feel bad. But now I"m noticing he's doing the same thing my ex said.. "I've never had a gf"... or I've been single for a long time. Such garbage. Ugh. I hate it. I honestly do not think an actual player would be this bad about it. He speaks like a nine-year-old. An accomplished player knows how to do it, and do it right. He knows how to love-bomb, what not to say, how to "accidentally" drop "trustworthy" and pretend-future comments and so on. I wouldn't be angry with this guy (this is just me, though). I really do think, just from what you wrote, anyway, that he probably has some sort of deficit/issue and he probably isn't lying about never having had a girlfriend. Just my take. Either way, this isn't something you want to deal with, IMO...I wouldn't want to have to "teach" someone how to have a relationship and maybe he doesn't want to learn anyway...so yes, move on, but don't be bitter about it. You haven't really wasted anything here, and you haven't given anything away. It's as simple as a "no, thank you, please move on".
ExpatInItaly Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 This guy wouldn't even pass my standard to be a conversation partner, let alone anything else. Not only that, but he sounds like he's actually only about 15 or 16.
TunaCat Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 He's not looking for a gf. He's looking for sex only and I'm glad you're cancelling your date with him. 1
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 This guy wouldn't even pass my standard to be a conversation partner, let alone anything else. Not only that, but he sounds like he's actually only about 15 or 16. When I talked to him on the phone he sounded like he didn't know how to properly annunciate his words. He graduated from a nice college too... which im surprised about. Idk whats happening these days.
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 He's not looking for a gf. He's looking for sex only and I'm glad you're cancelling your date with him. It's amazing how people will lie and waste their own time. If you're looking for sex then say it. It's not hard. You can find someone looking for sex too. I dont' understand why people won't communicate their wants.
elaine567 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 He says he's not looking for sex but he does expect oral on the first date. That is the point at which you should have ended the conversation. He was being inappropriate and disrespectful and chancing his luck, or he is one of those guys who has absolutely no idea of how to speak to a woman, socially handicapped. Either way you do not want to get involved. Find a normal guy.
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 That is the point at which you should have ended the conversation. He was being inappropriate and disrespectful and chancing his luck, or he is one of those guys who has absolutely no idea of how to speak to a woman, socially handicapped. Either way you do not want to get involved. Find a normal guy. Yeah, I think he really chanced it. Like... no. lol. I cancelled our meeting but like that is insane. Do people really pass eachother around like that now?
Lilyana76 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Sadly, most (7 out of 10) of the guys I started chatting to on OLD apps, have always gone straight to sex conversations. I end up blocking them and not talking to them again. One guy I met, seemed really great during conversations, talked on the phone one day and planned a meeting. We met, there wasn't anything really there. It was like he lost the ability to communicate in person. After we ended the meeting, he sent me a text message saying, "I want to bend you over so bad"... ummmm BLOCK. Honestly.. some men. This is why I quit dating apps, seemed most of them were like this. 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 When I talked to him on the phone he sounded like he didn't know how to properly annunciate his words. He graduated from a nice college too... which im surprised about. Idk whats happening these days. FWIW, he could say the same about your spelling. ^ I'm not trying to be a jerk, I'm just saying...maybe we should stop judging here? Back off just a bit from the truly cruel things that are starting to come out against this guy, sight unseen? If he literally can not even speak properly/has some sort of speech impediment, then the likelihood is only rising, IMO, that there is some sort of special needs issue here. So have a heart. This guy is not a player. He's doing what the "cool guys" do...at least from his perspective. I would bet my left ovary there is some extenuating issue here. You've said no. That's enough. You don't have to humiliate the guy now or intimate that he's stupid. No is no...so move on. 2
Redhead14 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 So guy is "purple" and I'm "blue". I don't want to bring any race in whatsoever. wanted to take me out to dinner/date. We've been busy and he's been texting every single day. I haven't texted him first at all he's done all the initiating. However, he brings up we should go to dinner, have wine, watch a movie and go to a hotel. Me on the bed and him on the couch. I asked if he was looking for a hookup, he said no he's looking for a gf. He's never had one and that he's sorry for seeming like he was looking at me like a sexual item. I told him it was a bit weird but it's okay. We text some more/days I talk about meeting soon. He then asks me, whats the most you will do on the first date? I told him I go with the flow but I will never have sex on the first date. He says he's not looking for sex but he does expect oral on the first date. I told him no that's not what I do on the first date. He says okay don't want to force anything! He's never done anything with a "blue" girl. I told him well you should get to know me regardless if i'm "blue". I have other qualities. He says sorry I've never done anything with a girl in a while so I tend to rush things. I've never had a gf. Then he asks if dick size matters to me because "purple" guys have them smaller than other colors. I said no idc.. He then asks if we dated, how would it work? I ask him how would HE like it to work? I then said distance is good, we are working adults and too much time will be suffocating. He says thats true.. how often did you have sex in your relationship? I said often if it was right why? He said he was curious bc he always wondered how that part works in relationships and told me goodnight. I replied saying just go with the flow... but you bringing up sex a lot makes me think you just want sex. have a nice night and talk to you later. How should I proceed with him? I'm noticing the signs.. I will not have sex anyone until I get to know them.. but idk about this guy... You don't proceed. Block and delete him immediately. but idk about this guy...-- I can't imagine what else he could say that would make things clearer. Do not meet him. 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 It's amazing how people will lie and waste their own time. If you're looking for sex then say it. It's not hard. You can find someone looking for sex too. I dont' understand why people won't communicate their wants. I think we all know that for the majority of very average dudes, literally saying "do you want to have sex?" is going to either be met with a slap, or a "sure, come on over" from someone who turns out to be rather on the undesirable side. It really is not that easy for guys to just get laid, at least from what I've heard, including from not-bad-at-all-looking guys. I mean there's Craigslist, if the guy wants to be made into a person suit.
stillafool Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 I agree with the others he only wanted sex from you. 1
Miss Spider Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 It's amazing how people will lie and waste their own time. If you're looking for sex then say it. It's not hard. You can find someone looking for sex too. I dont' understand why people won't communicate their wants. A lot of guys don't have the luxury of being honest. What I mean is, theyre not attractive or smooth enough to sleep with women of their standards (you) without leading them on with commitment. Women need to vet guys and watch out for players. Really though, to call this guy a player would be an huge insult to players. This dude sounds many sandwiches short of a picnic, tbh. I don't think he's anything to watch out for. 3
GunslingerRoland Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Oh, I've never gotten a blow job from a blue girl either. Can I buy you dinner? Wow, I'm just floored by his complete lack of tact. 2
Lilyana76 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Hes probably one of those that will end up on here eventually saying, "I'm such a catch and don't understand why I don't have a girlfriend." 3
lostboys Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 He says he's not looking for sex but he does expect oral on the first date. wow sounds like a catch
preraph Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Yeah, I can tell. He's not even cute but I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. Like we talked on the phone the first day and I thought that was new but then he started texting and I'm like ew. I've dealt with players but this guy sucks at his game. So should I text him saying I'm not interested anymore? I would. He seems very full of both BS and himself. Why get involved? Probably has no ethics whatever.
preraph Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 I've always been told I'm way to nice to people around me that I call "friends" or "boyfriends" and that I tolerate way too much. That ends this year though. Good. The trouble with tolerating too much even small bad behavior is since you're one of the only ones who will, they will latch on to you and then having someone around that everyone else can see red flags all over will run off the good people. So don't be that tolerant.
GunslingerRoland Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Hes probably one of those that will end up on here eventually saying, "I'm such a catch and don't understand why I don't have a girlfriend." And it'll mostly about how he's a nice guy and that is why he can't get a girl. 1
preraph Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Sadly, most (7 out of 10) of the guys I started chatting to on OLD apps, have always gone straight to sex conversations. I end up blocking them and not talking to them again. One guy I met, seemed really great during conversations, talked on the phone one day and planned a meeting. We met, there wasn't anything really there. It was like he lost the ability to communicate in person. After we ended the meeting, he sent me a text message saying, "I want to bend you over so bad"... ummmm BLOCK. Honestly.. some men. This is why I quit dating apps, seemed most of them were like this. It's because they haven't had a relationship, don't know HOW to have one, and they learned all they know from watching porn videos which seems to be all guys do these days. No real life experience, no skills, just expecting to get someone who acts like the messed up people in the porn videos for no reason. 3
preraph Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 When I talked to him on the phone he sounded like he didn't know how to properly annunciate his words. He graduated from a nice college too... which im surprised about. Idk whats happening these days. He was probably getting himself off so he could tell his only friend he has phone sex with someone.
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 I would. He seems very full of both BS and himself. Why get involved? Probably has no ethics whatever. I'm surprised he didn't say anything smart back. Usually the guys I talked to reply with something rude. lol 1
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