moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 So guy is "purple" and I'm "blue". I don't want to bring any race in whatsoever. wanted to take me out to dinner/date. We've been busy and he's been texting every single day. I haven't texted him first at all he's done all the initiating. However, he brings up we should go to dinner, have wine, watch a movie and go to a hotel. Me on the bed and him on the couch. I asked if he was looking for a hookup, he said no he's looking for a gf. He's never had one and that he's sorry for seeming like he was looking at me like a sexual item. I told him it was a bit weird but it's okay. We text some more/days I talk about meeting soon. He then asks me, whats the most you will do on the first date? I told him I go with the flow but I will never have sex on the first date. He says he's not looking for sex but he does expect oral on the first date. I told him no that's not what I do on the first date. He says okay don't want to force anything! He's never done anything with a "blue" girl. I told him well you should get to know me regardless if i'm "blue". I have other qualities. He says sorry I've never done anything with a girl in a while so I tend to rush things. I've never had a gf. Then he asks if dick size matters to me because "purple" guys have them smaller than other colors. I said no idc.. He then asks if we dated, how would it work? I ask him how would HE like it to work? I then said distance is good, we are working adults and too much time will be suffocating. He says thats true.. how often did you have sex in your relationship? I said often if it was right why? He said he was curious bc he always wondered how that part works in relationships and told me goodnight. I replied saying just go with the flow... but you bringing up sex a lot makes me think you just want sex. have a nice night and talk to you later. How should I proceed with him? I'm noticing the signs.. I will not have sex anyone until I get to know them.. but idk about this guy...
SevenCity Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 There are some pretty clear reasons why he has never had a gf! It sounds like you'd be better off finding another adult who realizes talk about sex before you meet someone is inappropriate. And yes, he's just looking for sex. 3
Miss Spider Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 No, do not proceed. This guy is a D-BAG!!!
goldway90 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 He says he's not looking for sex but he does expect oral on the first date. WHAT THE ACTUAL F@ck . Don't waste your time that's how your proceed. 4
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 This is weird...it sounds like middle school..."how much would you do on the first date"? I can honestly remember a few bold (and quickly smacked-down) boys asking girls things like this in the 7th grade. It is VERY immature. Maybe he has some social issues? 3
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Why do you talk with this mentally challenged creep? 1
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 There are some pretty clear reasons why he has never had a gf! It sounds like you'd be better off finding another adult who realizes talk about sex before you meet someone is inappropriate. And yes, he's just looking for sex. I figured but he keeps saying as long as I see your smile I'm okay. He likes my smile.. He doesn't ask for pictures or any of that shady matter but he brings up those topics. I don't want to waste time but clearly he doesn't know how dating works and he wants a hookup. He said he was interested in one girl but she friend zoned him. What text should I send to him saying hey, I don't think we are on the same page? I like to send text saying it's not going to work out or not because I see it as a business.
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 WHAT THE ACTUAL F@ck . Don't waste your time that's how your proceed. So what text message should I send him?
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Why do you talk with this mentally challenged creep? Because I'm someone that gives out chances but clearly the flags are raised up high for this guy. How should I end it? and no I do not just disappear. I'd rather send a text saying it won't work out.
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 So what text message should I send him? Honestly, if it were me I wouldn't send him any text at all. I'd fade away. 1
goldway90 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 So what text message should I send him? Friendzone him just tell him you're not interested anymore.
d0nnivain Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 I can't believe what a one track mind this guy has. Understand something: He ONLY WANTS SEX and he will say anything to get you to gratify him. As soon as he notches his bed post with you -- if he's even nice enough to offer up a bed as opposed to <boinking> you up against a wall in a alley -- he will be on to the next conquest who is dumb enough to fall for his line of BS. This guy is a cad & the exact type of player you want to stay very far away from. Proceed at your own peril. My bet -- you'll give it up, he'll dump you & before this month is over you will be back here wondering what happened.
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Because I'm someone that gives out chances but clearly the flags are raised up high for this guy. How should I end it? and no I do not just disappear. I'd rather send a text saying it won't work out. At the moment a man start mentioning sex, or going to a hotel, or anything you could do to him before you meet you drop him INSTANTLY. This man does not deserve an explanation. He's a perv and he's hoping to play you. 1
preraph Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Okay. I didn't get all the way through your post because once he said he expects oral on the first date, I wanted to shove a big sponge in his mouth so he'd dry up. This guy is a JERK, capital letters. Why are you tolerating any of this. Get away from him. He is saying what he hopes you want to hear but all he cares about is his penis. 3
CaliforniaGirl Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Because I'm someone that gives out chances but clearly the flags are raised up high for this guy. How should I end it? and no I do not just disappear. I'd rather send a text saying it won't work out. ^ Then that's the right thing to do...say "I'm sorry, I just don't feel like we're a match, but it's been nice getting to know you...I wanted you to know so you could move on" or something.
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 I can't believe what a one track mind this guy has. Understand something: He ONLY WANTS SEX and he will say anything to get you to gratify him. As soon as he notches his bed post with you -- if he's even nice enough to offer up a bed as opposed to <boinking> you up against a wall in a alley -- he will be on to the next conquest who is dumb enough to fall for his line of BS. This guy is a cad & the exact type of player you want to stay very far away from. Proceed at your own peril. My bet -- you'll give it up, he'll dump you & before this month is over you will be back here wondering what happened. Did anyone ever tell you gambling is bad? First of all I havent met the guy and now I don't really want to now that he keeps bringing that up. Since you want to be smart, please tell me the proper way to say thanks but not thanks. I'm not looking for a hookup. I'm a very nice person and like to give chances but obviously this guy is simple minded. Also if a player is this obvious, then he sucks at his game. I've dealt with players before and he could do a little bit better than this. No I dont like to disappear.. I like to tell them I'm not interested and then keep it moving.
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Okay. I didn't get all the way through your post because once he said he expects oral on the first date, I wanted to shove a big sponge in his mouth so he'd dry up. This guy is a JERK, capital letters. Why are you tolerating any of this. Get away from him. He is saying what he hopes you want to hear but all he cares about is his penis. Yeah, I can tell. He's not even cute but I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. Like we talked on the phone the first day and I thought that was new but then he started texting and I'm like ew. I've dealt with players but this guy sucks at his game. So should I text him saying I'm not interested anymore?
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 At the moment a man start mentioning sex, or going to a hotel, or anything you could do to him before you meet you drop him INSTANTLY. This man does not deserve an explanation. He's a perv and he's hoping to play you. Yeah, he cant play me. Plus he's not even that cute.... I'm just a really nice person and I feel bad. But now I"m noticing he's doing the same thing my ex said.. "I've never had a gf"... or I've been single for a long time. Such garbage. Ugh. I hate it.
d0nnivain Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 So should I text him saying I'm not interested anymore? Sure. Go ahead & do that but be prepared to block him if he doesn't take no for an answer & persists. 1
Gaeta Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Yeah, I can tell. He's not even cute but I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. Like we talked on the phone the first day and I thought that was new but then he started texting and I'm like ew. I've dealt with players but this guy sucks at his game. So should I text him saying I'm not interested anymore? Stop giving benefits of the doubt, that is how you end up being played, dumped and stood up. 2
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Stop giving benefits of the doubt, that is how you end up being played, dumped and stood up. Alright looks like I'll be canceling our meeting. Thanks guys. I'm learning! 5
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Sure. Go ahead & do that but be prepared to block him if he doesn't take no for an answer & persists. I doubt he will persist. But I'll be canceling my meeting with him. 3
lionlover1973 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 First of all I havent met the guy and now I don't really want to now that he keeps bringing that up. Alright looks like I'll be canceling our meeting. Thanks guys. Sex factor ickyness aside, a hotel room suggestion on his part screams stranger danger. That, or he's married. Thank goodness you decided to cancel. Good riddance.
CptInsano Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 He then asks me, whats the most you will do on the first date? I told him I go with the flow but I will never have sex on the first date. He says he's not looking for sex but he does expect oral on the first date. It's refreshing to see that chivalry and romance are still alive. 7
Author moonchild94 Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 It's refreshing to see that chivalry and romance are still alive. Whoever gives him oral on the first date is a dumb nut forsure. 2
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