Alpha_Male Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Sorry for my bad English. Here's the story... I know my gf since 2014 (when I was 25 years old). While she's 21. I have online business, and the business is running good. Money is not the problem for me. I'm a party guy. Straight talk while party clubbing etc, I met so many beautiful girls in my life. But it's very hard for me to fall in love with any of the those girl. My heart just like a steel. One day I meet this girl, she's beautiful with perfect body figure (until now I still dint find any girl that have similar body with her). The sex was good too. The best of the best. I teach her everything and she just followed it. That's another best thing about her. After 6 months of relationship, I start to feel bored, because I dint really love her enough for that moment. (It just typical me, start to get bored with any of relationship after it reach 6 months). In my relationship life, I have experienced couple with various type of women, majority of the relationship life will no longer than 6 months. Except with my current gf now, she's the only girl that, make me fall in love with her longer than that. 3 years++ Why? Because she's not a gold digger, she's have perfect body, sex was too good. She follow what I say & respect me. Support my business. And never give me any problem or stress. I changed from a playboy man, partying, to a very super loyal man. I reject all the girls that come to my me. From alpha to beta. Straight talk, this year i'm 28, while our relationship future still goes to nowhere. I'm serious about to get marry with her. I wait for her to be ready, I reject all girls till now (almost 4 years). I sacrificed everything because I love her. But.. She's changing too, become a person that I never expected. 1 time she cheat on me by putting the relationship status with other man on Facebook, I dunno, she said that just his friend asking to put that, due to <long story to explain>. After that I asked her to change the relationship status back. And she do it. She turn to be a very loyal girl to un-loyal girl, liar and many more. She sudden never respect me. Never care about my feeling. And suddenly very easy to get angry. Even for smaller thing. My ego is challenged, because at that time she putting the relationship status with other man that's ugly and not rich as me. Me in the other hand is more handsome (not to be arrogant or narcissism just want to explain the story in detail). I have a business, it was perfect. Money is not the problem for me. I have sport car, bigger house and everything. Majority of my friends think i'm stupid, with all that package why I still stuck with that kind of girl until now? I changed my self and everything because of her. From a man that very easy to get temper even for smaller thing > to a guy that really hard to get angry. Women are weird sometimes. They like bad guy. Too many problem in our relationship suddenly. 1. The cheater and the liar part. (we broke up 1 month because of this). 2. The job part, when she sudden want to work as club girl, we almost breakup too because of this, and I almost left her with NC, but out of sudden she cancel the job and we're back together. 3. And now the last thing happen, she sudden want go to the college (while she already 24 this year). But the problem is we are in long distance relationship. If she goto college, I dont think I can ever meet her. I said to her no need to think much about the future & money, just marry me, and I support you. (I even ask her to work with me, I can pay her wage since I need an accountant in my office, since she have the expertise in this field too). I dint trust her in college and long distant from me, anything can happen. I dint want to waste another year just waiting to get marriage with her. I wait her since I was 25 and now I'm 28. Every time I talk about marriage she will avoid it, like she dint really serious with me. I reject all the girls because of her, I be good because of her, I work hard for better future. I purchase house so that when we're married everything would be easy. You know what the worse part? Till now she still blocked me on Facebook (since our first breakup situation. When I ask for unblock. She say not for moment. I dint know what lies she hide behind me. I just message her today with, "at night lets talk about this". I also already explained to her that we can't be together with her new choice. So this morning at 4 am, I will call her, for saying last good bye. And I will start fully NC. (And she said ok, I know she kind of stubborn girl with big ego even she's suffering inside, she still will pretend she's ok). This is pain. Really pain. Most of my relationship even the first relationship is no longer than 6 months. But this is the first relationship that last longer for almost 4 year! I dunno what gonna happen. :/ Its hard for me to date another girls. Because she's the girl that have perfect body. And sex was the top. My mind keep telling me how I gonna get another girl like her with perfect body & sexual performance like her. My mind keep telling me that I will never meet another girl like her. I love her so much.. But it seems like she never appreciate about everything that I do for her... Her family history is not very good too. Her father left her mother for another girl. She live with her mother now, and stepfather. I will try to NC. But I have so many memory with her. Her smile and everything... I've already prepared everything, delete her picture, remove her Facebook social media and soon on. This night when i'm done saying good bye, I will start delete her number too. Any advice and support would be appreciate. And again sorry for my English. And I hope, there's still a "HOPE" that exits for me. Seems like there still and almost no LUCK for me when it come to relationship. And she's stupid for left guy like me... I believe one day she'll regret it. That time I would be too late. Thanks again for reading.
elaine567 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Different life stages and goals in life. YOU wanted a compliant girl who ticked the sex and body boxes who would dedicate her life to you. BUT she is young and not many intelligent women nowadays are willing to dedicate their life to any man at 24. She has now "grown up" and what you are offering is not enough for her. She doesn't want to "do what you say", she now has her own mind. Yes, you may be the "perfect" man but she doesn't want marriage and kids at the moment, she wants a job and an education and you want to deny her that, as you are scared you will lose her, and you are right to be scared. YOU are ready to settle down, she feels her life is just beginning and you are standing in her way. You need to find another girl to settle down with. Stop concentrating on the sex and the body and start looking for one who actually shares your goals. Stay away from younger girls as in another 4 years when they grow up, you will back at square one again. 2
Author Alpha_Male Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Different life stages and goals in life. YOU wanted a compliant girl who ticked the sex and body boxes who would dedicate her life to you. BUT she is young and not many intelligent women nowadays are willing to dedicate their life to any man at 24. She has now "grown up" and what you are offering is not enough for her. She doesn't want to "do what you say", she now has her own mind. Yes, you may be the "perfect" man but she doesn't want marriage and kids at the moment, she wants a job and an education and you want to deny her that, as you are scared you will lose her, and you are right to be scared. YOU are ready to settle down, she feels her life is just beginning and you are standing in her way. You need to find another girl to settle down with. Stop concentrating on the sex and the body and start looking for one who actually shares your goals. Stay away from younger girls as in another 4 years when they grow up, you will back at square one again. The reason why I stick with her, and be serious with her, it's because she said she was ok to marry with me. And serious with me. The first year personality that make me straight fall in love with her. If I knew after 3 years it would be like this, she never been serious with me, and out of sudden started to be so called independent women, I will never have relationship with her and wasting almost 4 years of my time with her at the first place. Thanks for the reply.
elaine567 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 The reason why I stick with her, and be serious with her, it's because she said she was ok to marry with me. And serious with me. The first year personality that make me straight fall in love with her. If I knew after 3 years it would be like this, she never been serious with me, and out of sudden started to be so called independent women, I will never have relationship with her and wasting almost 4 years of my time with her at the first place. Thanks for the reply. She was 21 when you met, so she had no idea what she really wanted and you were older, so she took her lead from you. YOU wanted to marry her, she agreed as it sounded like a good idea AT THE TIME. BUT once she grew up to know her own mind, she realised she didn't want what you wanted; in the same way that children end up realising that their parents are NOT always right and that they have their own life to lead and their own path to carve out in the world. 3
Author Alpha_Male Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 (edited) Just done calling. Both deep inside of our heart, we dint want to leave each other. But what a nice & clean brake-up. Talking, laughing each other, both giving good advice for each other. And then both asking for forgiveness each other. Before start saying good bye. And drop the call. (total 50 minutes of talking) Thought I'm strong enough to handle the emotional part. Now I just can't stop crying like a baby. I bet she did the same too now. Fuuh... what a pain and very emotional moment... Hope I can handle this and stay NC for next day.. next day.. and forever.... Till my heart totally healed. Thanks guys. :lmao::lmao: Edited February 15, 2017 by Alpha_Male
Maldives Posted February 16, 2017 Posted February 16, 2017 The NC works for u and if anything can in some instances make the other party regret there decision unfortunately fromantic my experience the ones that do decide to come back come back way too late wen u have moved on why do we move on? Pain it's the pain they cause u that makes u let go a little each day. Ull find unless she comes back soon within the mth otherwise that'll cause u pain ull hear or see things about her ud rather not possibly not saying u will but most likely that'll hurt be prepared. Anything longer than a mth starts the letting go process for u in my experience but who knows we r all unique and different. What I ask myself would I really wanna take back my ex that broke it off wth me and caused me so much pain wats to say they'll stay if they com back? I was wth my ex wife for 10 yrs wen she left came bac wanting to wo3k it out after 7 mths and then she started going hot n cold be careful and keep ur eyes open if it's been something like a cpl mths if she contacts u especially if she's hot and cold. That usually means someone else is on the scene and she's hedging her bets or oscillating. Good luck and God bless 1
Author Alpha_Male Posted February 16, 2017 Author Posted February 16, 2017 The NC works for u and if anything can in some instances make the other party regret there decision unfortunately fromantic my experience the ones that do decide to come back come back way too late wen u have moved on why do we move on? Pain it's the pain they cause u that makes u let go a little each day. Ull find unless she comes back soon within the mth otherwise that'll cause u pain ull hear or see things about her ud rather not possibly not saying u will but most likely that'll hurt be prepared. Anything longer than a mth starts the letting go process for u in my experience but who knows we r all unique and different. What I ask myself would I really wanna take back my ex that broke it off wth me and caused me so much pain wats to say they'll stay if they com back? I was wth my ex wife for 10 yrs wen she left came bac wanting to wo3k it out after 7 mths and then she started going hot n cold be careful and keep ur eyes open if it's been something like a cpl mths if she contacts u especially if she's hot and cold. That usually means someone else is on the scene and she's hedging her bets or oscillating. Good luck and God bless Thanks for the input. 24 hours NC now. Everytime I started to remember about her, or the good times memory with her. I will redirect the thoughts and focusing more into the negative part. That make feel good suddenly, and it make me think that's the best decision i ever made. I feel good, that's weird, maybe because when i was with her, deep inside of my heart i was suffering more than happiness. Will see how my feeling goes after I reach 30 days NC marks.
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