Coldfire Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 Hi! I am really frustrated because this dating business is such a pain! I would really appreciate some advice. So this guy I like has always been kind of passive but assuring me he teally likes me and wants me in his life. Anyway I made plans for spring break without including him or telling him because frankly I don't think I owe him an explanation (he has't asked for a relationship or anything like this). He said he felt hurt because I didn't try to make plans with him. Oh well. To make it up to him I suggested to spend Valentine's day together and invited him to a very special mini get away (I was going to go with my best friend if he wasn't interested). I told him to just let me know. Didn't want to feel guilty again! He accepted very enthusiastically and thanked me several times for the invitation. He has shown no interest since, rarely texting unless I initiate and we are supposed to meet in 3 hrs (he hasn't texted at all today). Right now I feel trapped and wish I just went with my friend instead. He makes me feel so confused. There is no consistency in his actions.
emsx0x Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 Hi! I am really frustrated because this dating business is such a pain! I would really appreciate some advice. So this guy I like has always been kind of passive but assuring me he teally likes me and wants me in his life. Anyway I made plans for spring break without including him or telling him because frankly I don't think I owe him an explanation (he has't asked for a relationship or anything like this). He said he felt hurt because I didn't try to make plans with him. Oh well. To make it up to him I suggested to spend Valentine's day together and invited him to a very special mini get away (I was going to go with my best friend if he wasn't interested). I told him to just let me know. Didn't want to feel guilty again! He accepted very enthusiastically and thanked me several times for the invitation. He has shown no interest since, rarely texting unless I initiate and we are supposed to meet in 3 hrs (he hasn't texted at all today). Right now I feel trapped and wish I just went with my friend instead. He makes me feel so confused. There is no consistency in his actions. He sounds like an immature man who plays mind games. He doesn't chase you and then gets mad when you make other plans? LOL. Move on. You deserve to be with someone who knows they want to be with you. 1
Gaeta Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 Hopefully now you understand he is useless to you and you need to drop him. Were you gonna pay for his part of the trip?? 2
Author Coldfire Posted February 14, 2017 Author Posted February 14, 2017 Yes! I understand now! Can I cancel on him ? I'm leaving my best friend behind who is single now and we would have a fantasic time together instead of wasting time with useless men. He made a huge deal about wanting to be a more impirtant part if my life. He finally texted "see you later" . What a loser. I really deserve better. Hopefully now you understand he is useless to you and you need to drop him. Were you gonna pay for his part of the trip??
Author Coldfire Posted February 14, 2017 Author Posted February 14, 2017 I really couldn't tell but I see his true colors now. I don't even want to see him anymore. Why ruin my trip if he is not interested? He sounds like an immature man who plays mind games. He doesn't chase you and then gets mad when you make other plans? LOL. Move on. You deserve to be with someone who knows they want to be with you.
Author Coldfire Posted February 14, 2017 Author Posted February 14, 2017 Oh the trip is paid for, I was going with or without him. I expected he woukd find a way to express his gratitude by taking me to a nice dinner etc. but you have a point here. I don't know if he is planning to. I just feel so rejected and it is all his fault because of his mixed messages! Hopefully now you understand he is useless to you and you need to drop him. Were you gonna pay for his part of the trip??
Gaeta Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 Oh the trip is paid for, I was going with or without him. I expected he woukd find a way to express his gratitude by taking me to a nuce dinner etc. but you have a point here. I don't know if he is planning to. I just feel so rejected. So it's a paid trip for 2 and he gets to join for free?
Author Coldfire Posted February 14, 2017 Author Posted February 14, 2017 Yes My friend would pay for other things if we went together. It's at a ski resort. I feel soo foolish! So it's a paid trip for 2 and he gets to join for free?
Gaeta Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 So if you contact your friend she has 3 hours to get ready and leave with you?
Author Coldfire Posted February 14, 2017 Author Posted February 14, 2017 We will be driving so she could take more time if she needs to. I just don't feel like this guy gives a s@@t. He hasn't even wished me Happy valentines, hasn't asked if I needed anything etc. So if you contact your friend she has 3 hours to get ready and leave with you?
kidm Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 This guy hasn't lifted a finger for you and seems lukewarm at best (and that's being generous). And you reward him with a trip? What were you thinking? 1
GoldSparkz Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 This guy hasn't lifted a finger for you and seems lukewarm at best (and that's being generous). And you reward him with a trip? What were you thinking? I agree! He's insecure and extremely immature. If you stand back and see what he's doing you will notice that every time you pull away, he comes bouncing back looking for attention and then when you give m the attention, he pulls away again. After a while these games get tiring. I hope you did get to go away with your friend. In future don't give a guy anything unless he's earned it. Just take this as a lesson. 1
seekingpeaceinlove Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 Mmmm. I would still go with him bc it was planned and he might surprise you. If he does nothing for you...MAKE SURE TO DUMP HIM once and for all. Actions speak louder than words! It doesn't matter what he says if he never backs it up with action. I hope you have fun today! 2
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