6 year girlfriend cheated on me

[The unreal deal]

Hi guys

 

I want your real opinion and what you guys on honestly think because this is killing me.

 

Over the last year our relationship was on the rocks a bit. My family would treat her like crap and I wouldn't stand up for her I understand this. But I feel like we both tried to fix our relationship a bit but not hard enough.

 

Anyway over the last month she was telling me she was going out with her friends and I trusted her so I beleeived. But recently 1 night I thought it was strange how she was acting she told me she was going home to hang out with her mum. so I tracked her phone. It took me to a different place to what she was saying she was at. So I drove all the way there to my suprise she was in the car hookingh up with another guy to my frustrations and anger I tried to break her windscreen and in her panick she drove off and ran over my leg.

 

I don't blame her for running over me. But what upsets me is what hope d.

 

She loves me and keeps messaging me asking for forgiveness saying her headspace was not the right place the thing that upsets me is that if she was drunk and had slept with someone it wouldn't bother me as much but she lied to me and met up with the guy.

 

She really is asking for forgiveness and is being honest with me she told me they have met up 5 times and when I caught them was the first time they kissed.

 

I don't know what to do I love her but Don't know if I can forgive her my headspace is just over the place at the moment

[PegNosePete]

She really is asking for forgiveness and is being honest with me she told me they have met up 5 times and when I caught them was the first time they kissed.

And you believe this? Goodness, I have a bridge to sell you.

 

Tell her to sling her cheating hook.

 

And you should probably see someone about your anger issues. Being angry is fine and normal. Trying to break a windscreen is not.

[mikeylo]

She went in with that guy with her eyes wide open.

 

You are now closing your eyes ?

[GoldSparkz]

Yes, I agree with Pete, breaking the windscreen could have caused injury to your girlfriend and yourself...unwise! This doesn't excuse her running over your leg either. Having said that, this girl is not worth your anger. You need to think about what is best for you and how you think you deserve to be treated. If she cheated once, she'll do it again.

[d0nnivain]

You are having trouble pulling the trigger & ending it because change is scary. She's making noise about being sorry because she doesn't want to get dumped. You are dragging your feet because you are a nice person & don't want to be the source of pain to someone you cared about. However, if she cared about you she wouldn't be lying & cheating. If you cared about her you would have stuck up for her with your family.

 

 

Your 6 year relationship has run it's course. End it & move forward.

[Gaeta]

She is sorry she got caught that is all.

 

As for you you need to get a hold of your anger problems and you need to do some introspection on why you let your family mistreat your girlfriend over the years.

 

When you are in a relationship you are a team. You have to protect and defend your girlfriend against outsiders, not let them pick at her.

[kendahke]

All those times you allowed your family to go in on her over the course of 6 years and you never backed her up or defended her to them? That set in motion the resentment she used to justify meeting up with this guy. Had you stood up for her, she probably would never have gotten to the point where cheating on you was what she reached for first.

 

Having said that, though, what she should have done was leave you and block you and move on with her life the first time you let your family go in on her, not cheat and deceive. There is enough blame to go around here for the both of you. Neither of you have clean hands.

 

I'd leave her alone. This relationship is over, except for the breaking up. You're not strong enough to put your family in their place and she doesn't have enough integrity to cover a flea.

[Space Ritual]

Hi guys

 

I want your real opinion and what you guys on honestly think because this is killing me.

 

Over the last year our relationship was on the rocks a bit. My family would treat her like crap and I wouldn't stand up for her I understand this. But I feel like we both tried to fix our relationship a bit but not hard enough.

 

Anyway over the last month she was telling me she was going out with her friends and I trusted her so I beleeived. But recently 1 night I thought it was strange how she was acting she told me she was going home to hang out with her mum. so I tracked her phone. It took me to a different place to what she was saying she was at. So I drove all the way there to my suprise she was in the car hookingh up with another guy to my frustrations and anger I tried to break her windscreen and in her panick she drove off and ran over my leg.

 

I don't blame her for running over me. But what upsets me is what hope d.

 

She loves me and keeps messaging me asking for forgiveness saying her headspace was not the right place the thing that upsets me is that if she was drunk and had slept with someone it wouldn't bother me as much but she lied to me and met up with the guy.

 

She really is asking for forgiveness and is being honest with me she told me they have met up 5 times and when I caught them was the first time they kissed.

 

I don't know what to do I love her but Don't know if I can forgive her my headspace is just over the place at the moment

 

It's a no brainer.

 

Release her to her destiny.

 

You are both equally responsible for the relationship. The cheating is 100 percent on her.

[smackie9]

You both lack respect for one another. You won't stand up for her, and she turned to cheating on you. This incident is a reality check that you both need to end your relationship. Getting back together doesn't make the issues go away...it would be a healthier choice for the both of you to just move on.