Just insecure or good reason?

[CreativeZen]

Long story short: I'm 24, I have been hanging out with a girl (also 24) for about 4 months, we are both in grad school, had a few rough moments where we stopped hanging out, were unsure about each other, etc. but for about a month now we have been pretty solid. We are basically boyfriend and girlfriend now.

 

However, she never seems to want to publicly declare it. Where I just tell people we are a thing, she always just laughs it off. On the one hand I get it, since we are kinda both people who want to screw with people and joke around and the whole thing of her and me being a couple has been a bit of a point of contention around the school, so it's fun to feed into it and spread more confusion. But sometimes I wonder if there is more and if she is actually ashamed of me or unsure about us. Normally I'm not the one who is like "yeah, let's tell everyone!" but sometimes I feel like with me and her that she is refraining to do it because she is worried about something. But maybe I'm just being insecure about the entire thing and I should just let it go.

 

Any thoughts?

[smackie9]

Hey if it is bothering you, you need to nip it in the bud quickly. Don't just stand there like a dolt, pull her aside and confront her about it.

[Ronnys93]

I agree with Smackie9. You need to seriously have a conversation about it, in private before it goes out of control.

[Jj66]

Three to zero on talk to her about it in private.

[todreaminblue]

make that four to zero...deb

[GoldSparkz]

We are basically boyfriend and girlfriend now.

 

Have you had the discussion as to whether you're boyfriend and girlfriend or did you assume this? Perhaps she sees you as just a friend which may explain why she refuse to acknowledge any 'title' in public.

[Miss Peach]

I agree to talk with her unless you haven't titled your relationship. She might not know what to call you; it may not be intentional if you haven't have a DTR talk.