surg Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 I met this guy 2 weeks ago and we really hit it off and I like him. The thing is, he just got out of a relationship a month and a half ago. He broke up with her and said he wasn't feeling it for awhile and said she had forced him into an eight month relationship - I told him that makes no sense to me and he said, 'well, its true.' He still has tons of pictures of her on his facebook and instagram accounts. He told me he wasn't following her anymore but I looked through his following list and he is following her modeling instagram and she follows him back (shes a model). I know he wants to hook up with me but I can't tell if he's rebounding. Is he really rebounding if he's the one who broke up with her? The little voice in the back of my mind is saying I'm going to end up being a rebound. Just want some more opinions here 1
Redhead14 Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 I met this guy 2 weeks ago and we really hit it off and I like him. The thing is, he just got out of a relationship a month and a half ago. He broke up with her and said he wasn't feeling it for awhile and said she had forced him into an eight month relationship - I told him that makes no sense to me and he said, 'well, its true.' He still has tons of pictures of her on his facebook and instagram accounts. He told me he wasn't following her anymore but I looked through his following list and he is following her modeling instagram and she follows him back (shes a model). I know he wants to hook up with me but I can't tell if he's rebounding. Is he really rebounding if he's the one who broke up with her? The little voice in the back of my mind is saying I'm going to end up being a rebound. Just want some more opinions here You will, more than likely, be a rebound. Don't go down this road. And, a man who "allows" himself to be forced into an eight month relationship has some issues you don't want to deal with . . . Is he really rebounding if he's the one who broke up with her? -- A rebound is a rebound -- it doesn't matter if it's the dumper or the dumpee. They both may jump into a dating scenario or relationship quickly as a distraction from the break up. 4
Satu Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 To be blunt: Of course he's rebounding. How could he not be? From my journal: Getting back on the horse "Never begin a new relationship until you've fully moved on from the one before. Also never begin a new relationship with someone who hasn't fully moved on from their one before. By 'moved on,' I mean any necessary grieving done, not preoccupied with the ex, enjoying life, feeling good about yourself, and optimistic about the future. The best way to move on is to decide to be single for a while; not dating, not hooking up, no fwb. 'Get back on the horse' is sound advice, but its best to let the cuts and bruises heal before you do." Do yourself a favour, and don't try to build a relationship with someone who has a head full of someone else. Take care. 4
GoldSparkz Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 He will end up hurting you as he is clearly not over his ex. If you fast forward a few months and picture the two of you dating when this guy still has plenty of pictures of his ex all over his social media accounts. You're gonna be constantly checking out the pictures and comparing yourself to his ex. You're also gonna wonder why he hasn't removed all traces of her from his life, considering the fact that he even admitted that she trapped him for so long. If I was him, I would be livid and wouldn't want to keep hold of her pictures. Perhaps its an ego thing because she's a model. Too much baggage, I would start to pull away from him and find someone who is only focussed on you. 2
CptInsano Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Just out of curiosity: How does a model, or any woman for that matter, force a guy into a relationship? 2
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 This guy is a player...he's still banging her, and is looking for something on the side. The guy is full of it.
Author surg Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Just out of curiosity: How does a model, or any woman for that matter, force a guy into a relationship? He said that was the only way she would continue seeing him. He said she was very emotionally supportive and would pay for their dates a lot of the time. He texted me yesterday a few times to say hi and whatnot but wouldn't make plans with me. I asked him if he wanted to hang out later that night but no reply, then I see on twitter he tweeted '#foreveralone'.
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