Amnesiac93 Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 Good evening everyone, I need some advice I'm in a sticky situation and just feel awful. I'll try and keep it as short as possible. Me and this girl who I was dating have been on and off for a long time it all started in early 2015, we'd always see each other out but she had a boyfriend so I didn't make any move just out respect as I've been cheated on. When she broke up with him we started speaking months after and met up in August 2015, she still wasn't over her ex so I took a step back and wasn't feeling it, she then got weird texting and calling me when she was drunk and we only met up a couple of times, deleted me off social media then re-added it was really weird. We then reconnected months later and just started to hang out like mates for months...that turned into sleeping together...then we started dating. When we were dating she was super hot and cold and would avoid trying to resolve any situation, in the end we both decided to call things off and just move on ending the on and off for months and just moving on. She found a new boyfriend and I was seeing someone new, it turned out my best friend started to date her new boyfriends ex. Then everything turned strange, in October 2016 her new boyfriend started on my best friend in a club shoving him and telling him too 'stay the f*** away from La***' that was his ex girlfriend and my best friend had stopped seeing her as well, so I was confused thinking he was still with my ex, I pulled my best friend away from the scuffle and we left the bar which in my opinion was the best thing too do, this guy was threatening my best friend that he would get people on him etc. I put it down to his was a vile person who had an unstable mental health, clearly. I didn't say anything to the girl I used to date, I didn't want to get involved I was angry at what he did though. Now, fast forward to the weekend just gone, we go out to the same bar where all this happend and we see him again, but he's now back with his Ex not with the girl I used to date, he shoved my best friend again but this time my other friend got involved and I was holding him back telling shouting and screaming in his face that it wasn't worth the aggro and we will get a sh**storm if I let him go through with it, he wrestles me off and confronts him I don't what he says too him but I run and drag him away with the lad telling me 'he will batter all of us' I tell him to 'f*** off' and drag my friends away trying to diffuse the situation. Strangely when all this happens the girl I used to date follows me on social media again that night, I leave the club and call her asking if she was still with him and shed light on this stupid childish situation. She says she's not with him and he really messed her around, I take this opportunity to tell I do miss her, which I truly did, I did not realise what I lost until it was gone, she's in the next town and I tell her I'm getting a taxi and going to meet her, please wait for me. I got there and she was waiting for me, I told her I was sorry and explained what happend at the previous club and that I did miss her. She came back to mine and we chatted in bed and held hands, no funny business happend we just held each other and went to sleep. The morning after I dropped her back and was texting her, everything fine. Today rolls around and I find that I'm blocked on everything, social media, number etc, so confused I call her with another phone. She picks up and she's short with me, asking her what the hell is going on? She tells me she's needs to space herself away from me, having me on social media has caused her a sh**storm. I finally get it out of her that her ex has messaged her about what happend the other night and what one of my friends said to him was 'I know where you live and I'm coming around with plenty of people and we will sort it out' he then accuses her of telling me and my friends where he lives. She thinks it was me and I was diffusing the whole situation and breaking up the trouble she wants to distance herself from me to avoid drama, which I can understand, but I've done nothing wrong. I feel so crappy, I woke up today hoping that taking things slow I could genuinely give things a chance and work at it with her, I woke up thinking everything will be alright and we'd both give things another chance eventually. But it's all came crashing down, please I need advice, I'm sorry for going on there is a lot there.
smackie9 Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 Too much drama....stay away from her. If anything was to come out of this she would be your GF by now...she always had some excuse...immature crap you can live with out....move on. 1
neowulf Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 But it's all came crashing down, please I need advice, I'm sorry for going on there is a lot there. I'm going to pass on a bit of advice that was given to me once. Step away from this for a moment and ask yourself.. "In 5 years, will any of this matter?" This is the kind of empty, pointless drama that can suck the vital energy out of a life. None of it matters in the big picture. Do yourself a favor and walk away from this. It the scope of a lifetime, believe it, it's not worth your trouble. 1
Author Amnesiac93 Posted February 13, 2017 Author Posted February 13, 2017 I'm feeling a whole mix of anger then being upset, I know I should defineley stay away, but why do I hope on getting her even though I know the situation is bad for me?
Grewd Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 I'm feeling a whole mix of anger then being upset, I know I should defineley stay away, but why do I hope on getting her even though I know the situation is bad for me? You cannot be serious? I wouldn't put myself through all this even if the woman could make water into beer, and I really love beer. It's ultimately your choice, but know that you can drop all this drama by letting it go or you can go through all this sh*t for one woman. The question is really whether it's worth it or not. Personally I would have stayed away even in my most desperate time.
OatsAndHall Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 This kind of drama is never worth it. Ex BF drama, social media b.s., etc..etc.. It's a gigantic mess that I'd avoid like the plague if I were you. At this point in my life, I am suspect of any woman who is surrounded by any level of drama. They're either a mess themselves or they have made some seriously poor choices when it comes to friends and significant others.
neowulf Posted February 14, 2017 Posted February 14, 2017 I'm feeling a whole mix of anger then being upset, I know I should defineley stay away, but why do I hope on getting her even though I know the situation is bad for me? That's a good question. One only you can answer. Though I would probably rephrase it; "Why do I care so little about myself, respect myself so little, that I'm willing to put up with this kind of garbage from people? Why do I not believe I'm worthy of a good woman and a healthy relationship?" I'd start with that and explore further. Because believe me man. You're worth a whole lot more than this kind of drama is worth.
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