don't know what to think

[palmsand]

Things have been going great with this girl the last few weeks. Had a date planned for this last friday and when I texted her about the time thursday morning, she did not respond.

 

Texted that night asking if everything was ok, no response. In one more message I apologized for a miscommunication, which I don't think happened but grasping at straws.

 

To this she did respond saying she had a bad day. I said sorry to hear that, and let me know if you want to talk about anything.

 

Hearing nothing all the following day(friday), I sent another saying I hoped everything was ok. No response.

 

And nothing since.

 

 

By saying she had a bad day, I'm lead to believe that something terrible has happened, maybe a family member or friend? And she needs time and space.

 

Or she is just ghosting me and hoping I go away. But who could be so cruel as to leave me worrying about them as a tactic to get rid of me?

 

 

I can't think of anything that has happened that could have turned her off suddenly. Wednesday night before she stopped responding we were texting like usual and said goodnight. Thursday morning, nothing.

 

She has proven herself to be extremely honest and open and a good communicator. I just can't see her ending things so brutally and without any explanation, if that is the case.

 

From everything I have seen, we are crazy about each other and would plan dates one or two ahead. At least some communication every day, etc.

I just don't know why she would suddenly go cold except out of fear of commitment or a tragedy like I first suspected.

 

We have not yet agreed to be exclusive, but I have no reason to believe she is seeing other people. Said there are lots of people she could date but doesn't want to. Also she has little time for others after seeing me and her work schedule.

 

What should I say if I contact her again? Should I still assume she is going through some kind of tragic event or she wants me gone?

Edited February 12, 2017 by palmsand

[d0nnivain]

She was vague & kind of rude. You had a date planned but she didn't have the courtesy to clearly cancel.

 

 

If you really like her reach out on Wednesday (after Valentine's day) & ask if things are better. If she doesn't respond, let her go. It's over. If she does get back to worm out of her what happened. Proceed with caution because this is already a bad sign.

[GoldSparkz]

Her flaking makes me think that she's dating other guys but keep you around as an option. Your time is precious and there are more girls waiting to meet you, so I would move on pretty sharpish at this point.

[mightycpa]

Why not try honesty? Ever think of calling her instead of texting?

 

Find a way to shut the door without sounding pathetic, but leaving it ajar at the same time, for example:

 

Hi, I don't know what's going on with you, but I hope everything is alright. I've tried to reach out to you with no success, so I can't help but think you need some space. I'm going to give it to you. Let me know whenever that changes. Good luck.

If she's ghosting on you, you'll never hear from her again anyway. If she's in some sort of personal crisis that she's excluding you from, then she'll get back to you when it's time.