DO girls just want a break in order to get the guys to send them flowers

[griftymcgriff]

Look, im really sorry for continuously posting my stupid problems here i know most of you probably think im an idiot.

 

Well the fact is, im so ****ing confused and worn out its not funny!!

 

Just recently you would have heard my gf wanted space about 2 weeks ago...then i was grumpy at her one night for being drunk and silly. I've been stressed out with one of the biggest job oportunities of my life (i havent had many like this). So i apologized to her the next day but she was mad at me. She also said she wanted a break..(two days before my interview how loving of her!) Well then she goes on holiday with her parents...I realise a break for me means NC nothing at all i cant show my effection that much in fear of smuthering her...OK i think things are going well i think to myself. i Got shortlisted but now have to take a test for the job and im really stressing out, i've got 1 week to complete it. im almost done but i have been up almost all night and all day working on this thing and just thinking about my gf hurts.

Then just last night she comes online and screams at me for unblocking her FRIEND who she told me to block..her friend got mad at me for blocking her so i unblocked her to apologize, My gf thinks i hate her friends but i never said i hated them... she puts words into my mouth i hate this. ANyhow, Last night we came to the point where she was saying "YOUR NOT EVEN TRYING TO GET ME BACK!" IM thinking WTF you want space im doing all i can and all i know to try and get you back. It turns out she wants me to send her LETters, and be spontaneous, and pick flowers and whisk her around or something like that. :S I mean Is it just me or did she just want a break so i would give her more attention? Im really confused here!

 

DO girls just want a break in order to get the guys to send them flowers...be spontaneous with the girl...SHe still says she doesnt know if she loves me. But when i say to her i feel like she's about to break up with me she says to me "When did i say that?" **** like that so **** knows what to do. Im worn out and am at the point where i will kill myself to prove to her not to **** around with my emotions. I mean i wont do it, im better then that, but i feel like i could quite simply.

 

She knows i love her to death..SHe doesnt seem to want to help me out here, I told her im stressed out to the bone. SHe doesnt quite understand what im going through and seems to be confused at her actions. I told her that a break to me means no contact and that she doesnt want me to smuther her with my love and stuff like that.

 

What can i do? DO i wait, do i send her letters of love. She HAD to tell me last night what she wanted me to do to get her back because it wasnt blatently obvious. i tried to tell her that but she wouldnt listen. She is a loverly girl but i just dont know what i can do. She doesnt seem to care about this much, never wants to talk about it. always goes out with her friends. IF she doesnt know if she loves me why the **** cant she just break up with me.

 

Thanks for listening. Please help me.

[SoftDrink]

i guess some might if it's a pre-teen romance...which yours resembles.

[griftymcgriff]

im 20 and she's 17...maybe she doesnt understand love as much?

[SoftDrink]

Originally posted by griftymcgriff

im 20 and she's 17...maybe she doesnt understand love as much?

 

 

ehhh. you're both young.

[griftymcgriff]

Perhaps. I just dont get her. I try not to bother her much if she's busy and stressed...during exams i mean. Now i get a chance and she's just ruining the mood for me.

 

The bad thing is i love her so much i cant just let go. i want to try and get things back on track.

[whichwayisup]

Obviously you're both in two different places in life. Work is very important to you and she's not at that stage yet, her career and the importance of it. It is only because she doesn't really understand that, yet. She will. Right now seems she's more interested in partying it up and having fun. Isn't ready for daily real life yet. She sounds abit too young though age doesn't matter when one is inlove...But in this case her maturity is in question. If a conversation about life and your work, etc., can't be brought up and discussed, how mature is that?? She isn't giving that to you.

[griftymcgriff]

She is mature tho, she's usualy telling me that i have to apply for a job. I've been doing my best to get together work of mine to show case to companies in my specific area.

When she said she wanted a break, she said to me "promise me you'll do your best at the interview" At the time she knew this was my biggest oportunity. Now she doesnt seem to understand i have a small one track mind at times if somethings bothering me i find it hard to work i told her this morning. The fact im upset, and i cant work. She asked if i wanted her to leave me alone for a while, i should have taken that offer and she might have gotten the picture.