thedigs Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Hey so im new here, But i just needed to talk to some people about this, So Where do i start. Okay so i guess ill start straight up, A few months ago my Ex girlfriend said she wasnt happy didnt like how the relationship was heading, An asked if i wanted a break , I said if you want one we can take one, She didnt take it. Fast forward 2 months and we have a minor fight about her being so possessive. I said i wanted things to change , An bang she asks if i wanted to go on a break. At the time i felt i did . The Rules were no contact , could see other people and we would come back after a month an see how we felt. I thought i wanted it but i was so riddled with pain that i told her i couldnt do a month and asked to just talk it out, She went off saying i was causing her to feel so bad and in so much pain and making this harder. Anyways i said okay , But the next day i couldnt take it anymore i didnt want to be on a break , I either wanted to know we could talk it out or for her to dump me, i dont want to be in limbo. So after i sent her a message she took like 3 hours to reply to it, In the message she blamed me for this and that i was selfish and didnt listen to her and that i was putting her into this position. Which i was.But she also said she loved me and wanted a 2nd go at our relatiionship in the future and that she will always be there for me. I said okay but the next day i sent her flowers with a note. i know this is a noobie and bad thing but at the time i didnt understand, Now i called her the day the flowers arrived and tried to beg her to stay, I know bad call. But i got some closure out of it, she told me why she was doing it., She said it was because shes young , wants to have fun date other people, she said ive experienced this which i guess i have im a few years older then her, she said she still loved me again and wants to have a future with me , i then said okay goodbye, An Ive been No Contact for 2 days , Today is a down day for me though , yesterday was good but ive been feeling down today about it, im trying to move on , but its so hard, It actually helped though she explain she was young
preraph Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Yeah, she's young and needs to just explore and also be on her own some and learn who she is when someone isn't around influencing her. It sounded kind of chaotic anyway, too chaotic that a young person ought to have to deal with it when they have so many other options. Let her go. Move on. Because this is going to take a long while.
Pumpingiron34 Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Lol for the love of god **** her on so many levels. Let her go get railed by every dude in town so she can experience being young. If you wanna win this go NC so hard that you vanish off earth. Than pop up on Facebook with a another chick and you'll see how quick she comes back or even just a happy photo of you getting wasted or partying somewhere Haveing the time of your life. When she does contact you tell her to piss off. Trust me this won't even ruin your chances of getting her back if you really want that. She'll be so wtfd? I promise you. Don't follow your emotions follow exactly what I just told you I'm speaking from experience to if I could go back in time and make the right moves I woulda had her kissing my ass but, I chose the logical nice heroic lets fix this guy act. Don't do that 3
Marc878 Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 I promise you the sun will come up in the am. Learn from this. You can't make anyone do anything. If you chase they move further away. Worst action you can ever take. Fix your codependency.
Lostandconfused12 Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Let me tell you from my experience with this. I wasted 7 years of my life with an on agAin off again guy who said these same exact things to me. IN THEIR HEAD they want something different. They do not want you. Do not hang around and wait you WILL get your heartbroken. How could you trust this person again? Think about it... if she knows she can just leave whenever she wants and have you on the back burner as she's out with other guys just stringing you along. Trust me leave this girl and move on. Your mind is playing with your emotions nothing you say or do will change this. Even if you got back she will be the same person. You'll find someone who loves you so unconditionally that they'll never even question leaving to find someone who fits them better. I was with my ex since I was 18. I never once questioned leaving him. I am 24 now and trying to pick up the pieces of my broken heart. I was young but I didn't care because I loved him. But now I see he wasn't right for me romance wise. Never. But in the end, he left me. Trust me it's not worth it.
Nowty V Posted February 12, 2017 Posted February 12, 2017 Best advice... Get in the gym. Even if you've never done it before and the idea turns you cold. Get to the Gym, Swim, best of all find a Muay Thai or freestyle kick boxing class, the workouts will really stretch you. Get the Endorphins flowing... Don't even think about her. Think about you, and physical exercise will most definitely help. Chin up. Good Luck
jamili Posted February 13, 2017 Posted February 13, 2017 Disappear off the face of the earth. Make it so that there is more evidence surrounding the creation of the pyramids than there is of your existence in this Universe. Literally evaporate from reality and this dimension as she knows it. ASAP 1
Author thedigs Posted February 14, 2017 Author Posted February 14, 2017 Hey guys , A little update, Im on like 6 days of no contact, Ive had my good days and ive had my bad days, Now yesterday i decided to call a councilor and it helped so much, So anything that helps me move on is for good for me, I honestly hope she never contacts me again, SHe keeps telling people that she hopes "we can get together in the future" people keep telling me , And im feeling as if i cant, If she goes out there sleeping around wheres the trust in that, Im no ones 2nd choice , Thanks for your kind words
jamili Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Hey guys , A little update, Im on like 6 days of no contact, Ive had my good days and ive had my bad days, Now yesterday i decided to call a councilor and it helped so much, So anything that helps me move on is for good for me, I honestly hope she never contacts me again, SHe keeps telling people that she hopes "we can get together in the future" people keep telling me , And im feeling as if i cant, If she goes out there sleeping around wheres the trust in that, Im no ones 2nd choice , Thanks for your kind words Meh you should be doing the same, sleep withother girls. If you guys do get back together in the someday, you will be moved on and starting a new relarionship, and it wont matter. Its not like other girls you meet are all going to be virgins either
Author thedigs Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Hmmm thats a interesting way of putting it. Great advice , All this stuff helps
jamili Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Hmmm thats a interesting way of putting it. Great advice , All this stuff helps No prob . Just remember, we dont own our partners, never did. Once your broken up you both can have sex with whomever you want and its perfectly normal and healthy. Id prefer it that way, personally. Let her get it out of her system, let her gain some relationship intelligence and figure out what she wants. Same for you. If the universe does someday bring you teo back together, the relationship willbe stronger because of it.
Author thedigs Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Is it okay to take time to get back out there? Or should i dive right back in, My motivation isnt in it though
Author thedigs Posted February 15, 2017 Author Posted February 15, 2017 Hey abit more of an update, its No contact day number 7, Some interesting things ive found out, Shes had 2 dates fall through, one the guy picked her up and drove her home, the other all he wanted was sex but she didnt ? I mean i thought that was the whole reason this happened. Anyways, she doesnt want me to know any of this, Also she keeps saying to friends i Hope he and i can be together in the future, Now Im not dwelling on this , I know it sounds like it, but ive come to the conclusion that i can move on and be open to maybe geting back together in the future so im not going to shut down my options . feeling better too 1
Jimmyjackson Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Hey abit more of an update, its No contact day number 7, Some interesting things ive found out, Shes had 2 dates fall through, one the guy picked her up and drove her home, the other all he wanted was sex but she didnt ? I mean i thought that was the whole reason this happened. Anyways, she doesnt want me to know any of this, Also she keeps saying to friends i Hope he and i can be together in the future, Now Im not dwelling on this , I know it sounds like it, but ive come to the conclusion that i can move on and be open to maybe geting back together in the future so im not going to shut down my options . feeling better too Who is telling you this stuff? I'd ask them to stop. The less you know the better.
jamili Posted February 15, 2017 Posted February 15, 2017 Is it okay to take time to get back out there? Or should i dive right back in, My motivation isnt in it though Get back out there when you are feeling ready... but... i will say, if you can force yourself to at least go on some casual dates, it will bebeneficial to you potentially. Its comforting to meet other attractive women you are showing interest in you, and practicing your social and dating skills, as well asbuilding confidence. Also, you can see for sure if you really want to get back to your ex at all or just romanticizing the past... dating other girls helps flesh that out. Wont lie... it feels weird as f##% in the beginning but ultimately i think it helps. If you are nc with your ex, and not getting anything from her.. it sure is nice to have a bunch of attractive women blowing up your phone in the meantime... helps keep your spirits up.
Author thedigs Posted February 16, 2017 Author Posted February 16, 2017 So i took your advice i went did some things for me today bought some new clothes, I got back my dating apps, An just gonna run from here, An see where it takes me, I hope some place good.
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